FEELING LOST AND ALONE :(

Lately Ive been feeling really alone with my husband being in Colorado. I've only seen him 3 times this year for a total of 5 weeks. It just kills me to even write that. the year before that i saw him 0 days because he was in Iraq. The year before that I saw him 4 weeks and then he went to Afghanistan. Next year he is scheduled to go to Afghanistan again!


I love him with all my heart and he loves me, and the good thing is that I'm never worried about him being with other women because we are big Christians and he takes it very seriously. he calls me most every night and we talk and we are truly meant to be together.


he always tells me how beautiful i am. we got in a fight in Colorado and he brought me flowers and a movie, like any guy he can be an ass but that's inevitable. i was supposed to move out there the beginning of next year and now i can't because the i would only be there for like 4 months before he left so I'm going to go try to visit for a month or so.


I just wish he was back, i wish i could talk to someone about all the pain i feel on a regular basis, i don't have anyone to lean on but my grandma, i love her but even she can't understand the true feeling of loneliness that i feel to my core sometimes. since i live in Columbus i don't even really have any wives to talk to or relate to. I've looked around for groups of women to associate with, thinking maybe there was something like AA for military families. nothing.


so a lot of nights (like last night) i tend to cry myself to sleep in hopes that someday it can be different.


sorry - just need to get this out there.

Posted on October 19, 2009 at 11:24 pm
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awee. lady. Big hug for you.


I'm sorry about how sad you feel. I felt the same way when FI left for Iraq--it took me several months to get adjusted to it. I'd break down for no reason every now and then, and no one really understands how you feel because they don't get it.


I was totally alone (except for work friends) in a different state with my FI in iraq. It's tough I know. I saw FI for two weeks. He's gone for his last part of the tour....and like a good army wife you stay strong and tell them not to worry about you.


We've gotten into fights over the phone from across the world. I know it's badbut it happens.


Stay Strong Sister. :)


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Posted on October 20, 2009 at 2:51 am
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I am so sorry! It is so tough to be away from them year after year after year. FI have been going through this since he graduated and went in- in the first 3 years that he was in, we spent less than 90 days together total. It was miserable.


You are never alone. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel- whether it is R&R, a quick weekend, or whatever, there will be a 'hello' to follow all those 'goodbyes.'


Being away from other military families is really difficult- we feel so cut off from everything and alone. No one else understands what we are going through. This is one of those things that you have to live to understand.


Take it one day at a time. Every day is one day closer to seeing him again. we are always here for you if you need to vent.


(((((hugs)))))

Posted on October 20, 2009 at 4:57 pm
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I know it's hard ladies, but I pray and wish you the best of luck.  Trust me he feels the same way.  And I honor each of you for standing behind your man at times like this.  Just know that you are his rock and without you he wouldn't be able to make it everyday.  He knows he has a good woman to come home to, someone he is willing to fight for everyday.  Keep supporting him and show him you are strong.  If you show him you are breaking down, it will affect him as well.  I commend all of you.  You are the best!

Posted on October 21, 2009 at 2:40 am
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We love you JVille- it is so great to have someone from 'the other side' on here :)

Posted on October 21, 2009 at 6:02 pm
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yayh!! JVILLE--Tell your Fi to join us :)

Posted on October 23, 2009 at 3:01 am
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Oh honey, I know its really hard.  Maybe try and join a sports team or club.  What do you like to do?  Do you have any hobbies or anything that you like?  Try looking on craigslist or meetup.com for events going on in your area.  Maybe a brunch club, or a book club or something just so that you can meet people and get your mind off of missing your FI.  Maybe you could join a gym in your area and start taking classes?  One of the other Dutch Marine wives joined a gym in her town (she lives 40 minutes away but we try and get together while our men are away) and she's made great friends through the classes that she's taken.  


I am in Holland here alone and still waiting for my residence permit so I can't even work yet.  My fiance was away for 3 weeks and next week he will be away again and next year will be heading to Afghanistan.  I don't speak Dutch yet and its so daunting to be by yourself when you are going through this. 


But it is important to form your own social circle and do things that you enjoy for yourself.  I recently joined a volleyball team in my town and I am starting to get into better shape as well as bond with my team


You can do it!!

Posted on October 26, 2009 at 11:49 pm
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i work at a gym so needless to say im there all day long and the customers treat me like crap because it is located in a rich area and they all have attitudes. if i tried to get involved in the classes no one would talk to me. i used to do bowling but all of that takes money and im just really low on that right now due to the wedding. maybe i will just go hang out at the book store more often, ill try the meetup.com you speak of when i get home. maybe ill be surprised.

Posted on October 27, 2009 at 12:50 am
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check out book stores and coffee shops. Some coffee shops do board game nights and stuff- which could be really fun and an easy way to meet people.

Posted on October 30, 2009 at 4:25 pm

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