What filipino traditions are you incorporating into your wedding? Or did you leave them out?
we're doing the cord & veil as part of the mass but leaving out the coins/arrahae part. we didn't like what the coins signified; the idea of monetary/dowry type thing didn't feel right for us.
i'm just not sure if where we're having the cord & veil will fit with the rest of the mass. i just hope we're not kneeling too long (ouch!)
they have a modern version of the coins now...in case you were interested:
this is from mybarong.com:
Unity Coins with Gold finish (English version)Coins' base surfaces are a matte finish, & the raised portions are brilliant finish
Also available in Spanish version in Gold or Silver finish
~ A beautiful part of any wedding ceremony
The Unity Coins are a contemporary version of the traditional wedding coins, known as Arras in the Philippines & Spain, that are used throughout the world in numerous cultures (Arabic, Filipino, Greek, Indian, Irish, Latin American, Sicilian, Spanish, Swedish, & others) & religions (Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Jewish, Muslim, & others).
The Wedding Coins have come to symbolize more than just prosperity. Today's couples embrace life & face the world together in a more mutually supportive way than ever before. Each coin in our "Unity Coins" set has a unique design, representing one of thirteen universal tenets of marriage:
~:~ Love ~:~ Trust ~:~ Commitment ~:~ Respect ~:~ Joy ~:~ Happiness ~:~ Harmony ~:~ Wisdom ~:~ Unity ~:~ Nurturing ~:~ Caring ~:~ Cooperation ~:~ Peace ~:~
The symbolic use of coins in a wedding ceremony is a tradition in many different religions, cultures & countries. The "Unity Coins" designs have influences from all over the world, including the "Celtic Marriage Knot" (which is on the backside of each coin), the Adinkra (Asante people of Ghana and Ivory Coast) symbol for Wisdom, & the Chinese "Yin & Yang," to name a few.
The designs are non-denominational & celebrate the universal tenets of an enduring marriage.
they come in silver too.
your church should be able to tell you the appropriate time to do the cord and veil. this tradition is also done in the hispanic culture, so i'm sure they are familiar with it.
Thanks for the "modern" version of the coins. We are doing the coins, veil, and cord and having 13 pairs of sponsors walk down as well! If you guys are doing sponsors, how many do you guys have?
haven't decided on the sponsors yet. but i want to keep the list small....i'm worried that there won't be enough people in the seats! lol.
We are doing our own "modern twist" to the whole Filipino Catholic mass.
We had cord, veil, candle, and principal sponsors. Our mothers were our candle sponsors. We didn't go crazy with picking 20 sets of principal sponsors, instead we had 5. We had arras in silver and offered flowers to the Virgin Mary. We had Filipino weddings songs sung at our ceremony - Taging Yaman and Sa'Yo Lamang. The church we got married in once belonged to the Irish in San Francisco but currently all the Filipinos took it over =). All of our male attendants wore traditional pina Barong Tagalogs custom made for each attendant in the PI.
We aren't getting married in a Catholic church. Our parents were upset at first, but are now OK with it.
But we're still doing the veil/cord/coin ceremonies, and the 20 sets of sponsors. **sigh** I wish we could have cut our sponsor list. But our parents have lots of siblings, and picking some but not others would cause MAJOR drama.
We're doing the Cord & Veil and the Exchange of Coins. I wish I'd known about those nifty unity coins!
We're only having one set of sponsors, my aunt and uncle, who will be placing the veil and cord over us.
valerie - thanks for posting the thing about the coins! I wish I knew the modern meaning...hmmm, I'll talk to my FI about this and see if we can still integrate it into the mass. I wonder if they have them at the filipino shops here in the bay area? there's one in union city. I wish I saw those before. My cousin in Manila sent me the cord & veil they used for their wedding & its beautiful! they could've gotten me the coins too.
We're not even doing the unity candle.
our priest is belgian and as far as I know hasn't done a spanish mass (he became a priest just a few yrs ago).
right now we only have 2 sponsors - 1 set for veil, 1 set for cord.
oh yeah... I was planning to hire filipino dancers to do a 15 min cultural show/performance during our reception. was so bummed that we had to cut them out due to our budget (had to choose between them and the photobooth, and the photobooth won out).
i even tried reaching out to the filipino club here on campus but haven't gotten any response :(
that would be cool to have filipino dancers. what school do you to go? i would keep trying to contact them to see if they could perform for a short time.
i haven't gone through the timeline of the mass yet, but try pm'ing missdoxxy. she just got married and she had a full nuptial mass. she may be able to guide you as far as when she did the veil and the cord. i could also look at her program when i get home too :)
i haven't seen the coins around at the stores. i'm planning on ordering them online.
I'm doing veil, cord, and the candle ceremony...so separate sponsors for that. We have 7 sets of sponsors! We don't know of any young kids, so our flower girl is my lola, and no ring bearer. The best man will just carry our rings!
we did a full mass with the coin, veil, cord and candle ceremonies, had sponsors, etc.
i was a bit concerned about the coin ceremony as well because i had been to weddings where the priest used very old fashioned wording for it... so i borrowed the wording from a few ceremonies that i actually liked and came up with this:
Blessing and Exchange of Coins
Fr. Timothy: Michael and Jamie, these coins symbolize your commitment to sharing the fruits of your labor and to contributing as a couple to your relationship, your children and your community.
Michael: Jamie, take these coins as a symbol of my complete offering to you of all that I am and all that I have.
Jamie: Michael, I accept and make the same complete offering to you of all that I am and all that I have.
one of my non-filipino, non-catholic friends actually came up to me afterwards and told me how much she loved that particular part of the ceremony and what it represented.
by the way, if anyone wants to see our full ceremony program to see the order/layout, just PM me and i'd be happy to email it to you. i've sent it to several PW ladies already!
still debating!! I like those ideas :D