final choice on the site, please help

Firstly, since discovering this site I have become addicted to knowing the tasteful opinions of you ladies!

As in my bio, my fiance and I are having a terrible time picking a site.
For awhile we had planned Newport, just short of signing the contracts we were set to go. Then things with the military changed so we have to be married in the South after all for bureaucratic reasons beyond my comprehension. Now we're trying to choose between Aiken, South Carolina and Jekyll Island, Georgia. Here are the pros and cons of each, help me pick please!

Jekyll Island Club
http://www.jekyllclub.com/
Pros
They specialize in weddings so they can plan everything for me, taking away a lot of trouble.
Its a resort so there are activities geared towards tourists naturally
Cons
It will end up being a bit more expensive. Site costs are comparable but catering is more and photographers in the area are going to cost a lot more than the New York area shockingly!
We can't share polo with our friends and families since there is no polo there. We can't dance and don't want that to be a part of our reception. If we're not dancing (everyone else can of course but we don't) and there is no polo, how do I entertain people?

Aiken, SC
http://www.aikenpoloclub.org/
Pros
We can share polo with people
Its more reasonable to organize in so far as vendors are concerned
Cons
Its geared towards residents and horse people, not general tourism. So for our non polo/riding friends there's nothing to do for the weekend.
Its not terribly popular for weddings unless you are from there. Planning will be more difficult.

If we do Aiken we want a ceremony/reception site. We found some churches and we're thinking of these places too
http://www.lookawayrosemaryhalls.com/
http://thewillcox.com/
Posted on November 20, 2007 at 4:17 pm
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WOW those are all beautiful choices. You would have several choices at th Jekyll Club. Ater looking at the limited information provided on the websites I was really drawn to The Willcox (I swear it has nothing to do with the name) The website made it feel beautiful and comfortable. All around it seemed classic. I would say go with whatever will mke you adn FI happiest and will be the wedding you want .

GL and be sure to let us know what you decide.
Posted on November 20, 2007 at 5:13 pm
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From what you've said, I would go with the Polo Club. I think the concerns with the Polo Club are more easily dealt with. Planning a wedding can be rough, but it's doable. You also aren't responsible for entertaining people throughout the weekend. It's a popular trend to make it a vacation weekend for people, but I don't think stress or money should necessarily be lent to this if it's not in your means. Also, the polo club brings a very personal element to the wedding. People like doing unique things for weddings--the other place has been done.

Go with your gut. I'm a terrible decision maker, but it helps to make a decision, but not tell anyone, and see how I feel about it a day or to later.
Posted on November 20, 2007 at 7:29 pm
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I would also vote for Polo Club. I understand what it means to have to think about how you're going to entertain people for the weekend -- we're going to try to coordinate activities for folks (quite a number!) flying overseas for our wedding. I know we don't "have to" but we want to. Since they'll be coming all that way, the least we can do is to make sure they have a good time. Anyhoo - from how you described both locales, it seems that the Polo Club would mean a lot more to you both. I'd go with that, and you'll have to be a little more creative with the to-do's for the weekend (don't worry - just start another post on that topic ;). The Wilcox looks beautiful, and guests can have relaxing spa treatments the day after!
Posted on November 21, 2007 at 4:30 am
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We're having a destination wedding too, and we've resisted the impulse to try to arrange the whole weekend for our guests. We realized after attending a few others' weddings that people get tired of trying to follow a complicated itinerary, and it really stresses out the bride and groom. What we did instead was create a map of the area with suggestions for things to do, places to eat, etc. Maybe you could do something similar for your area (whichever you choose)?
Posted on November 21, 2007 at 6:06 am
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I agree with all the others, I think Aiken, I remember from reading some of your earlier posts that you arent gonna have dancing and you love polo, so I think right there is your answer. So, people wont have activities to do...I come from boring town USA...and we always had ways of finding things to do...even if you just set up like a couple of bowling lanes and people could come play, or let people know where there is a park if they want to have a picnic...I think that not having a lot o things for people to do...should not be the deciding factor in where you have your wedding...

sorry, feel like I went on a rant....I vote for Aiken!
Posted on November 21, 2007 at 1:43 pm
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Thanks everyone, I think I'm going to look into Aiken, you all made such good points. It will require some creative legwork but keep your fingers crossed!
Posted on November 23, 2007 at 2:59 am
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I agree that Aiken sounds great! The website looks really beautiful and it sounds so classy. =)
Posted on November 25, 2007 at 6:33 am

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