Finally feeling married....

I think weekend was the first time I actually felt married since the weekend and it was really strange. I ran into an ex boyfriend while I was out shopping with some friends - he was the first boyfriend I had that sort of went out of the general type I generally liked - he was a combo of instant best friend and instant physical connection.


So it was just really weird seeing him - that sort of gut connection is still there, and even though there is no way I would ever want to date him or get together with him again, there was this sort of moment when I realized that I am married now and that possibility of even seeing him that way again is just out of the question, and it was weird. Like there is a higher standard that I hold myself to now - even though I held myself to the same standard before in regards to fidelity and commitment. And it was a good feeling, like more secure and that I was just happy with the choices I have made that have led me to where I am right now.


I don't know... its weird- any other married women have that sort of "wow - I am never dating again" sort of moment?


 

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 6:22 am
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oh my gosh. thats really awesome. oddly enough, i look forward to that!

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 6:23 am
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I did have an "Im his wife now"  moment ..... not quite the same though ;)


 


DH decided to scare me last week by having chest pain and needing to go to the hospital Wednesday night ..... while he was in reception giving the nurse all his info .... she looked at me at one point ( probobly because I was answering some things for him )and said to me  "and you are??"  ... and for the first time I got to say "I'm his wife"  in public ;) 

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 6:25 am
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That is awesome.  And you are so not the only one.  I remember having that moment... I don't remember what caused it, but I all of a sudden had this calm come over me and thought, wow, no matter what we are in this together, he is not going anywhere.  I have tried to explain it to friends that aren't married and it is hard.  We had been together for 7 years when we got married.  I knew that we would one day get married, but it was like I still had a chance to leave if I had had enough (usually it was just the waiting to get engaged that drove me to those thoughts).  But once we were married it was a whole new ballgame.  I felt we could face anything together.  Hope that makes some sense.

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 8:06 am
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Well it's only been 2 weeks, so my experiences are few.  But When we got back from our Mexico honeymoon, I had to call the University's health center to confirm we were allowed to go back to work.  And I had to say "My husband and I are both staff and just got back from Mexico, can we return to work or what?"  And Later I was like yeah, that's right MY husband!


 

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yeah thats exactly how I felt caribear - like what we have now is just totally different than what it was before - even though I know its not really... just strange how I felt like saying those words and vows wouldn't really change our relationship and it feels like it changed a lot - everything just seems so much more about us and our future together. :)

Posted on May 4, 2009 at 8:20 am

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