Firing a Bridesmaid Email

How does this sound.....


Dear XXXX,


I accept your apology for deciding not to attend the bachelorette party. I understand that you have finacial problems which is why it would be best if you consider stepping down as a bridesmaid. There are going to be other costs associated with the wedding and I dont want to burden you with that financial committement. I will buy your dress back, and hopefully that can help you out financially. I'm sure this is a difficult decision but I think it is for the best. Please let me know as soon as possible.


Backstory: I asked my friend to be in my wedding. I thought we've been really good friends for the past 8 years but this week I feel like things have changed. She had promised me that she would attend my bachelorette party but last night (after ignoring my calls for a week) she FINALLY Called me back and as I suspected a week before she is flaking on the bachelorette. I am now stuck paying her portion $250 (as well as my own too). I could have invited another friend but we were limited to 8 people because of the limo. I would have understood if she would have canceled a couple months ago, but this is incredably inconsiderate. She knew about her money situation months ago but still continued to confirm that she was coming. I really regret asking her to be my bridesmaid. A couple weeks ago even though she was in town visiting relatives, she also chose not to attend my bridal shower, which really hurt my feelings. I chose her over my friend from high school and I really really wish I could take it back. My other high school friend has been so sweet and wonderful to me I wish I could have her stand up for me now.


 

Posted on July 22, 2008 at 6:51 am
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Sarahinwonderland
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I think that sounds good.

Posted on July 22, 2008 at 6:54 am
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I think it sounds good. I would follow it up with a phone call the next day too (maybe put a delivery notice on the email so you know when she reads it)

Posted on July 22, 2008 at 6:58 am
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Do you feel better having gotten this off your chest?  Sounds good, you sound forgiving, but firm in what you'd expect.

Posted on July 22, 2008 at 7:00 am
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I think it sounds good.  I expect hurt feelings, but it's unavoidable at this point.

Posted on July 22, 2008 at 7:07 am
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Sorry to hear about your situation. I think the letter is well written. If she doesn't get back with you within a reasonably short time, I would follow up with either another email or a phone call.

Posted on July 22, 2008 at 7:36 am

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