FMIL is making me really upset - long :-(
So I was really hoping that this wouldn't happen to me, but I had no such luck. Here's the scoop:
My mom and I spent several days looking at places to have the reception. I want to get married in the church in which I grew up, so that limits the area where we can have the reception. We decided that Allentown Symphony Hall would be a perfect place to hold the reception. I work in Symphony Administration and have connections with people, AND the space is the nicest that I have seen by far. We can even have a cocktail reception ON THE STAGE, which is really beautiful and unique. It is in Downtown Allentown, PA. I know most of you are Cali girls, so that doesn't mean much, but Allentown has poverty issues, and many neighborhoods close to Symphony Hall aren't so great, but we have all the wealthiest people from the area regularly coming to the Symphony at night and we have never had any problems with crime. So ANYWAY, FMIL called FI and said that she REALLY didn't want us to have the reception there because it was so unsafe and she got so upset about it that she was crying hysterically to him over the phone. FI's cousin (who lives close to Allentown), talked to her and agreed with her that the area was bad. And they are BOTH convinces that no one will come because they will think it is too unsafe. I was just crying to FI on the phone about this. My mom has been SO patient and understanding so far, and she thinks that the Symphony is a wonderful place, and we have spent a lot of time weeding through other venues. I don't know how to tell her that FMIL hates the idea. And I have my heart set on it. Doesn't it mean anything what the BRIDE really wants? People always say their biggest regrets are not going with their gut and compromising to make other people happy. FI and I both love the venue, and we can't see ourselves having it anywhere else, and now she is ruining that for us.
Anyway, I don't know what to do right now, but I am really hoping that it will work out somehow.