Following up w/ guests who haven't RSVP'd

I will have to do so for some guests. However, I am very disgusted abt doing it. like why can't people just reply? Most of these ppl are in town going abt their every day life so its not like they are vacationing.

I feel like its VERY inconsiderate. Invites were sent within the 6-8wks frame, yet some ppl still haven't replied.

I know someone that didn't follow up when she didn't get replies and just considered them as a non attendee. then some had the nerve to call her after and said they will be attending. she said sorry, but the deadline passed LOL.

I feel like I want to go that route, although I think it's a lil mean lol. Plus things can get lost in the mail...

I"m going to tell FI to reach out to his ppl asking them to send so we receive by Monday(8/11-our cut off date), if not, I'm not going to include them. it's coming down to crunch time, so less ppl = less money.

if they didn't care to reply, they wouldn't care when i dont include them.

 

how many of you had to follow up w/ invited guests? did they provide a reason why they didn't reply sooner? just curious...

Posted on August 6, 2014 at 8:58 pm
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 I have a few guests who just assumed that we knew they were coming and didn't bother to RSVP.  So when I enquired with them to see if they were coming the response I got was "duh I would never miss your wedding!"  I suppose, to them, their attendance was a foregone conclusion. But I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't followed up, so I definitely suggest doing so before making permanent arrangements. 

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 6:35 am
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Hey Linn,

  I just sent out my invitations last week but I am anticipating a great deal of the same headache.  I also forgot to number my RSVP cards so if someone forgets to put their name on the card I have to wait until I get them all back before I start making phone calls.  I'm so mad at myself for that. 

Kuppy you should have replied with Duh, that little envelope stamped and addressed was supposed to be sent back to me and I wouldn't be calling you right now.  

My sister in-law asked me yesterday if she can bring her two foreign exchange students that will have by then!  Uh they are old enough to leave home and oh yeah TOTAL STRANGERS TO ME!!!!  That would be a negative since I have family that I can't even invite!

People blow me away sometimes.

 

 

 

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 1:57 pm
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 LOL man o man...the guest list struggle is so real I tell ya!

nice comeback NicholeB. That was my other thought...like dont waste my stamp! PLEASE PLEASE send the reply card back...like we have so much other things to think abt...and you know some of these guests are married and have married within the last year, so you would think they would extend the courtesy.

I actually sent out a few txt to some, stating i didn't receive their reply card yet and as a reminder monday is the deadline. I would've call but most just love text argggh. i got responses stating they will mail it out and thanks for the reminder :-/ i wanted to scream!

@nicholeB- for my invites i actually wrote the name of the guest and on some added a (1) or (2). some ppl will see one name and still try to add so I had to go there with some. I hope you dont have much of a headache tracking down who replied. 

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 4:00 pm
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RSVP waiting is the WORSE!!! In say a quick follow up by email, FB or a call if needed. Let them know that you are waiting and give them a deadline of a day or 2 to let you know or you are assuming they are not coming.

Its brutal. I lost it with no replies, people ADDING extra guests (NOT happening) and people forgetting to write their names on the card…really?? Luckily I had numbered all my RSVP cards so I could see who it was, but still.  Good luck hon. Hope they get back to you soon.

 

Posted on August 8, 2014 at 10:00 am
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 I love seeing these posts, because to me, this is the worst part about wedding planning. I've decided I'm giving them until the deadline, and if no response, I will follow up with them and tell them I need a reply, and if I don't get one withing 72 hours, I'm going to assume they are not coming, so there won't be a seat for them. I figure six weeks and three days is more than enough time for someone to check yes or no on a card, stuff it in an envelope that's already been addressed and posted, and drop it in the mail. It takes two minutes tops.

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 12:16 pm
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 haha you are absolutely right Miss M to MRS....its so simple yet ppl can't oblige.

I am starting to do my table arrangements, and have to call my mother about her friend who is possibly bringing someone...like why didn't she put that on the damn invite? i gave her a plus one. ppl are really challenged and inconsiderate!

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 2:41 pm
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 I believe I found some accurate memes for this situation:

How I think most all of us feel:

And here's one for the flip side of the RSVP debacle:

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 4:44 pm
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 LMAO LMAO LMAO LMAO

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 5:07 pm
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 Oh my Gosh Miss, I'm do going to end up eating leftovers for weeks I can already tell!

Posted on August 13, 2014 at 6:18 am
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 HAHA those memes are awesome!!!!!!!!

I would definitely try to email, call, text, or fb. When is the absolute deadline for head count at the venue? I hated that part of wedding planning. Still sucks lol. 

Posted on August 13, 2014 at 9:21 am
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I am sorry about what you have to deal with but I had to deal with the same thing..even after I contacted some of the people asking if they were attending the wedding they still didn't bother to reply..I mean, really?? How rude!! And most of them were very 'close friends' and 'relatives'.. So, I am sorry again but people are plain rude nowadays
Posted on August 13, 2014 at 10:36 am

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