FSIL starting to annoy me...

Hey Ladies..


I was wondering if I can get your opinion/advice on something..


In the beginning of the year I have decided for 8 of my girls to be my BMs.. I have no included my FI sisters because he has three and he told me that they would rather sit and watch... well time went by and i found out his youngest sister wants to be in the wedding.. i decided to let her be in it and I wil not take anyone out because i love all the girls and it would be really hard to take any one of them out.. so ihave 9 BMs, 1 JBM, and one flower girl..


ok.. so that now leaves his other two sisters.. I decided to have them as guests of honors and i explained that they will be walking down the aisle after our mothers are escorted to their seats. I think by them doing this everyone will know that they are his sisters and that is what I really want.. them to be acknowledged as his sisters..


before i asked the two sisters to be GOHs, I asked them if it would be ok if i go with them to look for their dress for the wedding.. they said it was fine.. but when i showed one of them the ideas i had for their dress styles.. she got a little snippy and said she is not sure of the styles because it will be cold in April (she lives in Cali and the wedding will be in NY and has never been to NY so i do not know who gave her this info...)... then she added that she will go to a store near her sister and they will look there i was like ok so i will go with you.. i then added that the Bms will have one shoulder dresses and I will have a straples dress and the only time we will be wearing scarves is when we go outside and the only time we will be outside is when we take pictures and going in and out the cars.. we wont be out long so the style of the dress is not an issue..


she replies that the issue is that she is not a BM she is just a guest.. im like true but since they are walking down the aisle as a bridesmaid i would like to see what they will wear (i wanted to gift them a clutch to match their dress as well so i want to know).. I also told her that there is no issue..


she never answered back.. I dont get why she is being this way.. she hardly gets in contact with me then when i actually do request something of her .. she gets like this.. im kind of glad she is not a BM anyway but still.. the other sister GOH told me which dress of my choices she likes.. so idk why the other one is giving me a hard time.. I havent spoken to FI about this btw.. im just venting.. *sigh* im standing my ground tho.. i still want to see the dresses they pick..


Am I wrong?!!??

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 4:26 am
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zeuster
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Has the sister who picked a dress given you any indication of whats wrong? Maybe she can help the indecsive sister pick a dress? I don't think your wrong. I would have a conversation with her and tell her if she doesn't wan to walk down the aisle as a GOH then she can just be a guest and wear whatever she wants. Weddings sometimes bring out the worst in people who we don't expect it from.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 4:38 am
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Has the sister who picked a dress given you any indication of whats wrong?--- no she hasnt. my guess is that she just picked it and later talked about it with her sister and revealed her true feelings (i HATE when people do this)...


 Maybe she can help the indecsive sister pick a dress? --- maybe.. im going over there to visit them and want to go with them to look for dresses.. my guess is that the stubborn one is going to be a no show and try to have her way.. Maybe i will call her a few weeks before the week i come and see if she still has a problem with my request..

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 4:44 am
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No you are not wrong. I agree with Zeuster, if she wants to just be a guest and wear any dress without letting you see it first or having your approval then let her just be a guest and not GOH.


Its your wedding and you can have it anyway you want. If they can't respect your request then they shouldn't be allowed to have the privilage of being in your wedding.


Weddings really do bring out the worst in people and I wish what I know now I knew last year cause I would definitely change up a few things with the bridal party. But I can't. Everything happens for a reason I guess.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 4:55 am
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you guys are so right.. i hope it ends well..

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 5:26 am
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Maybe they are upset they are not in the wedding as bridesmaids. I'd be hurt if my brother was getting married and my sister and I aren't apart if it. Have you asked them?
Posted on July 25, 2013 at 5:57 am
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when i asked them to be GOH they said they would love to be and thanked me for the privilege so it couldnt be that..

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 6:18 am
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I hope it all works out. I don't think you are being unreasonable

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 8:21 am
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thank you KimandByron !!!

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 8:22 am

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