Getting my MIL involved
Ok so this is a complicated post for me, but the short version is: how can I involve my future MIL with my wedding planning?
the long version is that I harbor a little resentment and sometimes we like each other and sometimes we hate each other (which is more or less normal I hope. ) when we first got engaged his mom got pissed at us because he never told then, we let our excitement get to us and posted it to Facebook before we told them and I think they think he stole his brothers thunder of proposing because they knew he was planning and he peoposed two weeks after us.
There has been a few conflicts here and there and I think I've smoothed most of them out and I did involve her in choosing the venue but basically that's it. Since my folks are providing most of the funds for the wedding I wasn't sure how much say they should/can have.
Now after it's all said and done I feel a little bad and have avoided, but really need to, to tell them we cut out the booze because its saving us over a grand and we still have to chose between a videographer and a Dj and I'm kind of bummed about this. But the wedding is already over budget. I think she's sad that I didn't ask her to go dress shopping (but I didn't want the drama) and I was planning to do her family's side of the invites with her. No one made suggestions for menus other then complain. Also the other my FI said that they are offering to rent us limos. I'm both excited, having never been in one, and feeling guilty. I would much rather they pay for the booze since their insistent on it... But now I feel like I will seem grabby if I tell her now that we decided against booze. I feel like my hesitant behavior is making things worse. I guess I've also seen that I'm a bit of a control freak with planning for my wedding becUse other then one or two things and my FI's opinion on everything I have done and planned everything!! Help!!
So I ask what can I do?