Gift Giving Rules for Men
I have a friend who is struggling with some disastrous gifts from her boyfriend over the holidays and now her birthday as well. We were laughing about how clueless men can be with this stuff. I came up with a couple of rules that all men need to learn about giving their girlfriend or wife presents. Feel free to add to these or disagree with any...then share with your husband so he can learn them! LOL
1. Do not tell the girl she has a big surprise coming and do not tell her how great the gift will be......men get really excited when they've put time, thought, and effort into a gift and they can't wait to give it to you. So sometimes in that excitement they talk up the surprise/gift. The only thing this does is ruin part of the surprise and make you think of all these amazing things it could be, inevitably leading to disappointment when you get the gift. Even if it's a good gift, it will be lessened by them doing this
2. Truly think about what SHE wants, not what you would want....to women this seems obvious, but it's such a common mistake men make. When they are trying to think of something to get her they think "what would I like most to be given if I was her?" and then they give her the female equivalent of that. Sometimes the couple might be similar enough with similar interests and the guy will get lucky that this will work. But usually men and women are different (thank goodness!) and therefore want different things. This results in a gift that seems to the woman to really be for himself and not her. Men need to STOP and really think about what SHE wants...not what he would want if he was her
3. Listen to her hints and then actually implement them......Women do not expect men to magically read their minds....ok some do, but not all...we will give fairly clear hints about gift ideas or even specific things we would want as a gift. This rule has 2 parts because first the man must actually HEAR what she has said and recognize it as a hint. The second part is to actually go out and get that for her. Some men feel like if they follow her hint too closely it's not spontaneous or romantic because she'll be expecting it. We gave the hint for a reason! And trust me, you actually hearing it and getting it for us is surprise enough! Be happy she's throwing you a bone by letting you know just what will make her happiest so you don't have to guess.
Those are the main rules I've come up with that would have saved 90% of the relationship gift disasters I've witnessed (and received myself) Feel free to add on to these or discuss why you think they are accurate or totally wrong. Share your ridiculous gift story!