Grandaughter - Papaw & Brother - Sister dance?

I'm in a bit of a pickle. My Dad passed away in June 2013 and my wedding is this coming October. Therefore, its still pretty fresh for just about.. well.. everyone in our family. Even my fiance sometimes gets upset just thinking about my Dad not being able to be present. However, the date was set, the deposits were down.. we really didn't want to push it back because Dad wouldn't have wanted us to.

 

SO. Naturally, I had to find someone to give me away. Well, I have a little brother, and he specifically asked if he could do the honor of standing in Dad's place and walking me down the aisle. My brother and I are two years apart, we are very close, and always have been. He's actually going to be my Man of Honor as well, because well honestly - there isn't a woman in the world that compares to him. My brother and I are sharing an appropriate 'giving away' dance at the wedding. I have been considering 'In My Life', the covered version by Ozzy Osbourne. The only music taste he and I both share is for classic rock. Except every song I have come up with he decides he doesn't like. We are both so picky and want this to be perfect, because for us, when you really think about it, it is an ode to our Dad. At least, that's what we'll be thinking and talking about the whole time we are dancing. That's just.. how we are.

 

My Papaw, my Dad's father, has been such an important part of my life. He was the first person to hold me after my Mom & Dad, the first person to ever show me so many things in life. And without my Dad, I have turned to him for everything. Car trouble, advice, just anything I need. I was originally going to ask him to walk me down the aisle, but after hearing from family members that at my Aunt's wedding he broke down going down the aisle, I knew that standing in his deceased son's place was not a good idea. So, since my brother specifically requested the position, I decided we would forgo it and instead I would surprise him with a dance at the reception. I feel bad for mentioning that he needed to think about whether or not he would be able to walk me down the aisle and by the time he told me he would do whatever I wanted him to, I had already told my brother he could. So, a little surprise is in order.

There is not a song on any list, in any google search, no where that I have found, that truly speaks for how I feel. As well as doesn't talk about a boy! There are plenty of songs about a grandpa or grandfather, but it talks about him saying 'atta boy' or something about a grandson, the list goes on. Also, please do not recommend 'Grandpa' by The Judds. I've heard the song, but my Grandpa is not really old timey. He wouldn't be telling me about the good ol' days. It's a little too... dated.. for us. I'm also not really looking for a generic song that just ANYONE can dance to, like 'The Way you Look Tonight' or 'What a Wonderful World' or 'My Wish' (ten times overused.. sorry to any brides who are using that). Oh & keep in mind that he has been having a very hard time with my Dad's death. My Dad was their firstborn, their first son, and he was basically my Dad's best friend. They talked everyday without fail, even worked together for many years. So, something like 'Dance with my Father Again' won't work, because my Papaw will simply cry the whole time and this is supposed to be joyous, not sad.

Besides classic rock, I personally am really into country music (so is my Papaw), so any country songs that you could think of would be wonderfully appreciated as well!

 

I am sorry for being so picky, but after you've read through all that, if you still have patience enough with me to help, I would SO appreciate it!

Posted on January 12, 2014 at 2:42 am
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Sending my condolences to you and your family for the loss of your father, I know he will be watching with sheer happiness and will be proud on your special day!

I won't be much help to you becuase I don't really know country music that well especially songs that may not have your gfather break down.

Some brides in the past have spoken about making a small table dedicated to their deceased love one, have you thought about that or will that be too much for you and your family on your wedding day?

Posted on January 12, 2014 at 10:09 am
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What about the song "I loved her first" by heartland - unless you  feel thats too much a father/daugher dance
Van Morrison "theese are the days" is really a nice song a little different then your usual dance song but the lyrics are really nice
"My wish"- rascall flats


Also, another pw girl asked the same question a while ago and got a ton of answers maybe it will help you too heres the link 
http://www.projectwedding.com/forums/need-a-grandpa-granddaughter-dance-song

Hope this helps! Let us know what you decide! 

Posted on January 12, 2014 at 2:47 pm
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what about simple  man by Lynyrd  Skynrd here are the lyrics

Mama told me when I was young
Come sit beside me, my only son
And listen closely to what I say.
And if you do this
It'll help you some sunny day. Oh Yah!
Oh, take your time... Don't live too fast,
Troubles will come and they will pass.
You'll find a woman, yea yea, you'll find love,
And don't forget son,
There is someone up above.

(Chorus)
And be a simple, kind of man.
Oh be something, you love and understand.
Baby be a simple, kind of man.
Oh, won't you do this for me son,
If you can?

Forget your lust, for the rich man's gold
All that you need, is in your soul,
And you can do this, oh baby, if you try.
All that I want for you my son,
Is to be satisfied.

(Chorus)

Boy, don't you worry... you'll find yourself.
Follow your heart, lord, and nothing else.
And you can do this, oh baby, if you try.
All that I want for you my son,
Is to be satisfied.

(Chorus)

Baby be a simple, be a simple man.
Oh be something, you love and understand.
Baby be a simple, kind of man. (Fade out)

 

Posted on January 12, 2014 at 3:10 pm
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Simple Man is the song my brother & Mom will dance to at his wedding. Sorry, but I don't want to steal his thunder, since I'm getting married first! I loved her first is too much of a father/daughter song.. plus.. I have a cousin dancing to that with her Dad. Again, no thunder stealing here. I personally am not a huge Van Morrison fan and My Wish is.. eh.. too generic. I'm sorry I'm so picky! Haha, but the suggestions are all wonderful, thank you so much.

 

I think I decided for my Grandpa and I, we are not going to have an entire dance just the two of us. With me dancing with my brother, my fiance dancing with his Mom, and then my grandpa and I.. I don't want to bore my guests. So, I think instead, when we introduce this dance we will start by ourselves and then have the DJ invite anyone who has a grandparent in the audience that is special to them, to dance. Or parent. Something along those lines, I will have to work out those details as it comes closer to time.

 

HOWEVER, I do believe I have picked the song for my Grandfather-Granddaughter dance. It is a LITTLE generic, but I will introduce it saying something about my Dad and how he would want us to know we are Never Alone, because he is always with us. Since my papaw is having such a hard time, I feel like it would really help him to hear that. I think we will use Never Alone by Lady Antebellum. It's a bit modern for Papaw's taste, but the words just.. oh my. I saw someone suggest that song for the same thing and I was about in tears with how much the words impacted me.

 

I DO STILL NEED HELP WITH THE BROTHER/SISTER DANCE! Thanks. :)

Posted on January 12, 2014 at 6:20 pm

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