Grooms involved?

I am continually surprised at the level of involvement my fiance wants in the planning process--from centerpieces to the site to the favors. While it's difficult realizing that our visions are very different, it's fun that he wants to be involved. So tell me, is your man involved or not?
Posted on July 23, 2007 at 1:11 pm
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joe
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I would say I'm somewhat involved in planning although probably not to the level it sounds like your FI is.

In general, I offer my opinion on design decisions, but I don't really push for my views. I let her make the final decision. However, I'm available for manual labor and other menial tasks that don't require any sense of style.

I went to the meetings with our vendors although I could really only judge their personalities and not so much their work. Some of the wedding tasks I've done / will do are honeymoon planning, ceremony programs, helping to put invitations together, and any paperwork.
Posted on July 23, 2007 at 3:56 pm
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Some guys just don't "get it" - a groom's job is to just show up.

(Just kidding.)
Posted on July 23, 2007 at 6:08 pm
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Glad to know that your FI is so involved in the wedding planning. My DH wasn't involved at all. I just wanted his opinion, but every time he said to me: "Whatever makes you happy, baby!" OK then!
Posted on July 23, 2007 at 6:14 pm
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For the time I started our wedding plans, my FI has been loving the fact he's just going to show up that day. But I only have a couple of "to Do Items" for him - the easy ones (ie - Tux, Honeymoon, and him having fun at his bachelor party)

As for details.. he doesn't really care about them. He just wants to see me happy.

My suggestion to you is to have involved in small simple tasks. Nothing too extreme.
Posted on July 23, 2007 at 7:29 pm
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My DH was very involved in the planning process. He picked the favors, invitations, chair cover sashes & made programs. The good thing is that we usually agree on things and if not, there are enough other options to find a common ground.

I did do more of the logistics though like sending out the invitations and contacting venues (w/ the exception of the DJ- he did that).
Posted on July 24, 2007 at 8:06 am
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My guy is firm on his venue choice and even registering for square white plates! Sometimes it's frustrating not to get my way, since being engaged has revealed that our tastes weren't as similar as I thought. This one place has this awful fence (lame judgement, I know) that was keeping me from liking it, so he asked the owner if he could tear it down for the wedding and rebuild it! haha! I'm just really glad he's excited about the wedding.
Posted on July 24, 2007 at 10:57 am
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FI ia very involved. He isn't flipping through bridal magazines by himself at night, but we look through them together and bounce ideas off of each other.

He contacted all of our caterers and has been in charge of finances as well. I'm the beauty, he's the brains.
Posted on July 24, 2007 at 3:08 pm
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FI is involved because I want him to be! He would be content to let me make all the decisions, but he's offered his opinion and suggestions when I ask for them. He's also heading up the honeymoon decisions :)
Posted on July 24, 2007 at 3:38 pm
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DH was somewhat involved, though I still did most of the work.
Posted on July 25, 2007 at 5:43 am
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That's wonderful that your FI is so involved! It'll definitely be a lot less pressure and work for you when your big day comes close.
Posted on July 25, 2007 at 5:44 am
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FI is very much involve with the planning. We met with all our vendors together and do all the decision together. There are things he doesn?t really care about so he just let me do whatever I want. But I like the fact he?s very involve. After all it?s his wedding too.
Posted on July 25, 2007 at 8:28 am
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I did most of the planning and vision for the wedding but I made DH attend every appointment with me. If I didn't, I don't think he would have any clue how much vendors cost and quality of service. We made all the decisions together and it was much easier to make decisions because he was there in those appointments. How many posts on the Knot do you see about a couple fighting over which vendor to book or how much to spend? Having DH involved helped prevent nearly all those disagreements.
Posted on July 25, 2007 at 9:30 am
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Nope, he's not involved at all lol. Originally all we wanted was close friends and family, us, the sand between our toes and a sunset.... That was our dream from the beginning; however, our wedding now holds a grand total of 100 people. I couldn't not invite anyone, especially family, feelings would be hurt,
We wanted everything very simple, but now that we have all these people attending....I can't make everyone come all the way to Jamaica and go home regretting it, so my mom and I are planning everything. Decorations, flowers, invitations, favors, you name it.
Posted on July 30, 2007 at 7:34 am

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