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So of course wedding fights are going to happen. My mom is paying is paying for the wedding.. but it is at my fiances parents house. So my fiance think he can invite every single person he has known.. and I would like to keep the list down to 100 for my moms sake... and also i dont think you need to invite every person you know at your wedding....... help... how do i talk to him about this? 

Posted on January 28, 2014 at 5:57 pm
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 Eek. That's def something that needs to be agreed upon. Have you mentioned to him that even though your mom is paying for it, there is a budget you need to stick to? If you guys are similar with money, he should understand where you're coming from :) 

and I agree-you def don't need to invite everybody you know to your wedding! Keep it to the people that mean the most to you!

Posted on January 28, 2014 at 7:23 pm
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 Oh, and welcome to pw! Many wedding disagreements have been settled thanks to the pw ladies lol. 

Posted on January 28, 2014 at 7:24 pm
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 I agree, I think you need to sit down and discuss the budget with him. Maybe he's thinking that because its at his parent's house it's going to cost much less than it actually will, he might just not realise the reality of it!!

Good luck and thanks for joining Project Wedding xx

Posted on January 28, 2014 at 11:20 pm
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 what the other ladies said was great, but another thing to consider is the size of his parents home.  will 100 people fit comfortably in the space you are going to use?  if he tries to invite more people will there be room?  if the space is tight with 100 guests, then that should make the discussion pretty easy.  there just isnt enough room for more guests.  however many you have, just make sure there is enough space.

i say this because i have been to a wedding where the couple invited too many people for the space they had.

Posted on January 29, 2014 at 12:12 am
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 Krosa brings up a great point, something to add to that are bathrooms. Not sure what the bathroom situation is, but  if there is 1 or 2, for 100+ guests you'll have lines for sure!

 

Posted on January 29, 2014 at 11:09 am
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I have been lurking on here for a while and my best friend had her wedding at her house with 60 guests. There was only 1 bathroom and it got clogged because it was being used too frequently so once it was clogged that was a huge problem. Another problem was that cars were parked up and down the block and the cops got called and they were really lucky that the police didn't make people move their cars and mess up her whole wedding. There was also not enough space for 60 people in her living room so not everyone was able to sit down, which is crazy when you're in high heels, there was no dancing either because even though they got a DJ there was no room for dancing. It got hot even though the A/C was on max because there were too many people too close together. It was kind of a disaster so all of those things are things that you have to ake in to onsideration if you'll have a wedding at a house. 

Posted on February 1, 2014 at 2:29 am
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 Thanks ladies! We talked agreed to cap it at 100. The drought is California is now another issue! Space at his parents isn't a problem they had a wedding there with 150. But they have a pond and no water means the pond is a dirt hole! So if we don't get rain it will have to be at my moms! Which had smaller space but we can make it work. Parking people literally in the forest. It will be an outdoor wedding so that will help the over heating of people. But please please pray for rain! We need it for so many reasons! The cost of flowers will be up too if we don't get any! 

Posted on February 1, 2014 at 11:47 am
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Glad you came to an agreement.Welcome to PW
Posted on February 1, 2014 at 4:28 pm
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Posted on March 25, 2014 at 7:05 am
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 I feel your pain.  My FI verbally invites people to our wedding and I always cringe because I think CRAP we can't invite them to our wedding how am I going to uninvite someone?

He's such a sweetheart and wants everyone to be there but of course understands that they can't.  I just wish he would remember before he invites them LOL.

Posted on March 25, 2014 at 8:32 am
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I agree with you.Every person can not  be invited in wedding.You shold discuss your budget with your fiances.you can say your fiances that your mother is paying for marriage so you should not waste money.If you will save money you can plan many other things.well you don't mention is your fiances's parent not paying in wedding?

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