Guest list question

Due to financial reasons we are trying to keep our guest list at 80 or less.  We have only invited a few close friends (2 to 4) and close family.  I am running into a problem.  My family is not close at all with my fathers side of the family...Long story but there 8 sisters, and my dad and I think I have only seen most of them 3 times in the past 5 years (my grandma's funeral, one of the sister's funerals and a family reunion that was this past June).  Each of the sisters has at least 1 child if not 2 or 3.  However, I am very close to my mothers side of the family.  We do everything together and seem to make a big affair out of a rather small event.


Now my quandry. I was inviting all of my mom's side of the family Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, 2nd cousins, Grandma, spouses-everyone.  My dad's side I was only going to invite the Aunts & Uncles.  How do I let them know this?


 

Posted on July 23, 2008 at 12:10 am
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hi sept27, i am in the same scenario. i think they would get the point when they don't recieve an invite. do they think one is coming? have they brought it up? if they bring it up say, "oh my wedding is going to be small and private due to financial constraints, once we are a little more stable, we're gonig to have one to invite everyone" or something like that.


in my case, my mom was bold enough (after me pressuring her) to tell some family that "its going to be very small and she's only inviting people who at least know her birthday" LOL. But then she said seriously, that only really close family will be attending. people will get offended, but honestly, you shouldnt feel bad because hello, i can't believe they EXPECT to be invited when they havent been a part of your life really?

Posted on July 23, 2008 at 2:12 am
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Thank you WM. 


I am inviting my dad's sisters and thier spouses. I emailed one of my aunts to get an address of 2 aunts that had moved and she "informed" me that one of my cousins had moved as well and I may want to contact her for her address.  UGH. That is when the issue sorta arose. I don't know how to respond back everything I come up with seems disrespectful...


 

Posted on July 23, 2008 at 2:40 am
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hmm.. Well, maybe you can say "Thank you for her address, I'm planning on sending her an announcment once all of the wedding craziness is over." Sometimes the less you say is enough for someone to get the hint respectfully.

Posted on July 23, 2008 at 2:44 am
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That sounds good.. I may try that.

Posted on July 23, 2008 at 2:52 am

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