Has anything changed since you've been married?

I know it's only been a little over four months for us, but DH has changed, and it's not bad, really, it could be worse. He can't seem to tell me no about anything but also he has gotten soft with telling others NO AS WELL! Since we have been married, now he seems to want to a lot of couple things. I love double dating or having friends over to the house for dinner, but it has been ridiculous lately! Sunday is supposed to be our relaxation day but for the past month or so, there has been someone at our house for dinner or we are going to dinner with someone else! He will tell them first and then ask me second. How can I say no when he has already told them yes and make me look like the bad guy? Everytime he tells someone about plans we made, they want to pal along and instead of him saying no, he will tell them yes or say let me call my wife and ask her. Why has he already planned a vacation in May with FOUR OTHER COUPLES???????


Okay, so now your turn! : )

Posted on November 12, 2012 at 7:54 am
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Wow, he sounds like a social butterfly!


I was just reading a little article in Glamour magazine about what actually changes when you get married. It was cute, I liked reading it. There are good and bad things I'm sure! We've only been married 2 months so I'm not so sure yet. I'm pretty much used to it already, but everything is ours not mine and his, like everything! lol.

Posted on November 12, 2012 at 8:27 am
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I cannot think of much that has changed in the past 9 months. I know that I am more comfortable telling him things I get annoyed with as far as my MIL goes (thats a fun relationship...) I think we also are in a transition phase as far as our social calendar goes. We are planning more outings with married/coupled friends vs us going out indiviually with our single friends. We still do it, just not every weekend!

Posted on November 12, 2012 at 8:43 am
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A few things have changed and I am loving the changes so far. :)



  • DH has become a lil protective of me (in a cute way not a negative or possessive way) and I find it cute and endearing.

  • DH seems to like referring to me as his wife more so than he used to refer to me as his fiance when were engaged. (I love it! And I LOVE referring to him as my husband) ;)

  • The shift of us becoming a family unit vs. just a couple

  • Like Jess - we go out less but when we do it's with a group or it's with couples.

Posted on November 12, 2012 at 9:20 am
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@Elise - I love the "ours" aspect of our marriage! I didn't feel like that my first go round. That's why I know he is my soulmate! So I will check back with you in a couple of months to see if anything has changed! : )


@MissJess - I love doing things and giving dinner parties, but I also love our "us" time.


@Ashley - Awww! I love all the changes! DH does that to me too! He text me every morning and says Good Morning to my beautiful wife or when he calls he always says Hello Mrs. Young! It is so darn cute when they are protective! I know you are loving it!

Posted on November 13, 2012 at 2:06 am
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we are also 2 months in, and i almost wish something would change so i would feel like we were married! NOTHING has changed. which is fine, because we have a great relationship that functions very well. but i do not feel married. at all. the other night, i told him the was the best boyfriend in the world. haha. i cant get it straight! 


 

Posted on November 13, 2012 at 2:29 am
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Lol @Kelly! Are you serious? You really don't feel married? Maybe the change is subtle. . .For instance we just love saying husband and wife and say it as often as we can! Lol. And hey, if it's not broke, don't fix it!

Posted on November 13, 2012 at 6:04 am
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I can't tell WHAT is changed, but I definitly feel it. It's positive and feel so good. I guess it's like Ashley said about being a family unit instead of just a couple. I really love being married and it's like my life is now evolving around DH, as if he was my gravity center, instead of my parents and sisters.

Posted on November 13, 2012 at 1:15 pm
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Awww Pascale. . .I love it! I love being married too!

Posted on November 14, 2012 at 5:09 am
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i think it doesnt feel different to me, because we have a daughter. so i have pretty much been called mrs benson from the time she was born by her doctors, and other people *assuming* we were married. what i do love though, is that my name is officially changed so i dont have to correct people any more! haha. i think it would be different if we werent parents, but for the past 3 years, its pretty much been like we were already married, just not legally! 

Posted on November 14, 2012 at 5:32 am
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I have to say, I thought it was going to feel the same, but there is something slightly different that I can't quite put a finger on. I just feel closer and more connected to him somehow - I'm sure it's all in my head, but I really love this feeling <3

Posted on November 14, 2012 at 8:04 am
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I love being married as well. Not a whole lot has changed about our relationship since we got married - I totally understand the whole "not feeling married" thing. We lived together before hand and so there wasn't a whole lot of surprises for me when we moved this time.


DH has changed a little. He is great at communicating with me about decisions regarding money or other things like that - and I really love that! This is the one thing that has changed about us. Before we got married we lived together but I had my money and he had his. We used to keep track of it and if he used my car for something he would pay me back for gas, or whatever. Now we share one car and share one bank account. 


That did take some adjusting! He is very respectful of us as a "team" and before he does anything he talks to me about it. Before, we were responsible for ourselves and now it feels good to have someone to work with. DH and I work well together. =]


 

Posted on November 14, 2012 at 9:15 am
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I've been trying to post on this thread all day, LOL. I am the elder married here on this thread...LOL


I love love love being married and the one thing that has changed is that DH and I rely on each other a lot more.  We are a "family" and we tackle issues together.  It's a miracle especially this past 14 months because we have been through so many negative things happening to us, almost immediately after moving into our home, but through everything, we have stuck together, took on extra jobs/either outside or inside the home and basically cut back on everything just to survive.  We have had a few battles, but that is only because he and I are both very strong willed, but I have to say, he is the only one that I could ever imagine tackling these issues with. 


I am blessed beyond words and going through all of the difficult and trying times we have had, the committment we feel towards each other, and many kind words and love from my PW family, I have been able to get up each day with a positive attitude and always ask "What can I learn today?".  I'm getting mushy now.  : )

Posted on November 14, 2012 at 3:37 pm
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@fromcoldtofire - NO IT IS NOT IN YOUR HEAD AND I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL! People like to say that getting married is just a piece of paper but it is not! It is sacred and special to pledge yourself in front of loved ones your committment, honor and love to one another! 


@Chelsi - That is a GOOD CHANGE! 


@Becca - Awww! I love everything you said and Becca how old are you saying you are the elder? I am 39! Lol. That is what marriage is about and that's why the vows mean so much! We too have experienced life changing things since we wed. I originally took a second job to aid in paying for our wedding, but I keep it out of necessity. DH had to take a paycut and have things taken out of his pay that he has never had taken out before and that was a real blow to us financially, but we are such a strong unit together, we do what we have to do! We too have had battles, (it's hard being a stepmother when the mothers are bitter!) but we always talk and work things out! I am so happy that through it all, you remain positive, committed and in love!

Posted on November 15, 2012 at 2:43 am
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It's so neat to read the variety of responses.  Kelly, I don't think it's a bad thing at all that you don't feel anything has changed - that might just mean that you and DH are that comfortable and perfect for each other.  ;)


MARRIAGE KICKS ASS.  I seriously don't understand why people joke/complain that marriage is the end of their freedom, individuality or worse, the end of their lives!  It's the most beautiful thing I've ever been a part of.  It's God-given and just plain magical - warts and all.  


DH has definitely changed and I love EVERY aspect of it.  He loves calling me his "wife" or 'wifey' or 'the Mrs' and says it even when he doesn't need to!  And even though he was always engaged in talking about "our future", he talks about it so much more now - coming up with ideas and dreams about our life together.  It's the most beautiful thing to listen to, I swear.


Yeah, I freaking love him.  lol  Okay, that is all.

Posted on November 15, 2012 at 4:20 am
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Awww Mica!!! I totally agree with you and Cale does the same thing! I tell him everyday, "Marriage sure looks good on you!" I freaking love being married! 

Posted on November 15, 2012 at 4:45 am

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