Help! Family Ish!

Hi,

My fiance and I are getting married in late summer, and I'm freaking out... We are an interracial/interfaith couple, and his family wants a traditional Vietnamese wedding, like really really bad. I do not want this, but I really want to make my man happy. I don't know what to do. I found this one advice column that gave me hope and relief -

http://www.thebolditalic.com/articles/4948-do-i-have-to-do-things-the-way-my-immigrant-parents-want-me-to

so, maybe 2 ceremonies like she suggests?? I don't know... any thoughts appreciated...

Posted on May 7, 2014 at 8:21 pm
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Canooknic
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 I think combining the 2 together is a lovely idea, it also makes it completely unique and personal for you

Posted on May 7, 2014 at 8:46 pm
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 there are lots of people that have 2 ceremonies now days.  esp the first generation americans that are getting married.  i think 2 ceremonies would be good.  if you want to have the traditional vietnamese ceremony be more for immediate family you could and invite everyone to the american ceremony.  i think that another special touch would be to incorporte a grooms cake and have it look vietnamese.  wedding cakes may not be a big thing in vietnam i dont know.  but incorporating his heritage into the reception would not be lost by your in-laws.  plus you wouldnt need as big of a wedding cake if you have 2 cakes.

Posted on May 7, 2014 at 11:13 pm
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You could do your reception Vietnamese themed. The tables could be destinations, you could print all of your menus and programs in both English and Vietnamese.  And you could do traditional dances and music for both of your heritage. Oh and Vietnamese food is delicious, you could offer a few traditional dishes that his mom could make recipe cards for to send home with guests as favors. Good luck!

Posted on May 8, 2014 at 6:54 am
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 I remember many old PW brides that had both traditional/cultural ceremonies that their parents wanted, as well as a ceremony and reception the way they wanted. The other ladies have given great advice! Good luck, and let us know what you decide! :)

Posted on May 8, 2014 at 3:19 pm

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