Help me! Ceremony wording, scripture, etc.! No clue where to start.

We're getting married at an outdoor ceremony by an officiant.  I want our ceremony to be special, unique, and religious based.  My fiance does not want to read his own vows.  I have every other aspect of the wedding figured out besides the most inportant part.  What we will say and what will be said at the ceremony.  Where would I even go to get ideas?  Can any of yall share yours with me?  My officiant is open to anything so i want to provide him some clear verbiage.  Help yall!!  TIA.  My email is juliekay@gmail.com if you can email me samples or something.  I'm lost on this!

Posted on July 30, 2012 at 6:17 am
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Here's a link to different scripts. http://www.angelfire.com/id/vancuren/wedscript.html
Posted on July 30, 2012 at 6:20 am
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Here are our vows, not very religious, but def unique:


His:


Donna, this is the most significant moment in my life, the moment I give myself to you as your husband.  


From this day forward I promise you these things,


I will laugh with you in your times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow.


I will share in your dreams, and support you as you strive to achieve your goals.


I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement.


I will help you when you need it, and step aside when you don't.


I will remain faithful to you, for better or worse, in times of sickness and health.


You are my best friend and I will love and respect you always. I love you.


 


Mine:


John, this is the most significant moment in my life, the moment I give myself to you as your wife.  


I love you. You are my best friend. 


I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.


I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seem hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort.


I promise to cherish you, and to always to hold you in the highest regard.


These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life.

Posted on July 30, 2012 at 8:09 am
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Here's the wording I used for my own ceremony. My DH and I did a handfasting ceremony instead of sand ceremony/unity candle. We didn't have individual vows.


Words of Welcome


Today is a celebration!  Rebekah and Thomas welcome each of you.  They are delighted that you are here to share in this ceremony and in their joy.  Everyone here is important in their lives.  Each of you, in some way, has played a part in the making them who they are.  By your presence, you celebrate with them the love they have for each other.  By your presence, you are supporting their decision to commit themselves to one another.  Thank you for being here!



Their love and understanding of each other has grown and matured, and they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife.
Marriage is the most important of all earthly relationships, and a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection.  Having acknowledged the significance of this commitment, Rebekah and Thomas are here today to join hands in marriage.


Let us bow our heads and pray,
Dear Lord, behold our family and friends here assembled.
We thank You for Your presence in this place.
We thank You for the love that unites us; that make our lives delightful,
We thank You for the peace accorded us this day,
We thank You for the hope with which we anticipate tomorrow,
and the bright promise of today.  Amen

Address to the Couple



Rebekah and Thomas, please turn and join hands.


Reading : The Creative Art of Marriage
There is an art to any creative activity. So too in marriage.
Part of the art of marriage is being flexible.  So in your marriage cultivate flexibility, patience, understanding, and a sense of humor.
Part of the art of marriage is to comfort each other and strive to be each other’s best friend.
Most important, develop the capacity to forgive and heal your differences day by day.
For them, this marriage is both a pledge of enduring love, and an expression of their commitment to each other.


This understanding brings me to the first of three suggestions I will offer to Rebekah and Thomas:
    Be constantly grateful to this person who has chosen to make a life with you.
    Second: Make each other the recipient of daily kindness.  The world can be a tough place and any of us can be subject to rough handling.  Be generous with compliments.  Be attentive and helpful.  Each of you can (by your tenderness toward each other, kind words, and thoughtful actions) make your marriage and your home an uplifting refuge.
    Last, and perhaps most importantly; Make truth the unfailing bedrock of your lives together.  A happy, loving marriage is built on trust and respect.  That trust and respect can only be sustained if you are both deeply committed to always being open and truthful in every exchange no matter how small or large.
   May your marriage be blessed with many long years to delight in each other’s company.  May you continue to feel gratitude for your great good fortune in having found and loved each other.  May you make a home together that is at sheltering and welcoming.  May you find meaningful, productive work at home and in the world.  May you continue to love and be loved by the friends and family who have come here today to support you.

Posted on July 30, 2012 at 8:21 am
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Here's the second part sorry wouldn't let me post all of it on one. :)


The Marriage Acceptance


Thomas…  Rebekah, do you, with family and friends as your witnesses, present yourselves willingly and of your own accord to be joined in marriage?



Rebekah and Thomas: I DO



Will you promise to care for each other in the joys and sorrows of life, and to share the responsibility for growth and enrichment of your life together?



Rebekah and Thomas: I WILL



The giving and receiving of rings
To marry the person you have set your heart upon is a joy unparalleled in human life.  Chris, may I have the rings please?
Thomas, place the ring on Rebekah’s hand.
As you give this ring as a sign of your commitment, do you promise to love and respect Rebekah as your wife from this day forward?



 Thomas: I DO



 Rebekah, place the ring on Thomas’ hand.
 As you give this ring as a sign of your commitment, do you promise to love and respect Thomas as your husband from this day forward?



Rebekah: I DO



Hand fasting:
Rebekah and Thomas have chosen to use a hand fasting in their wedding ceremony to emphasize their eternal bond and reinforce the feeling that they never wish to be parted from one another.



Hand fasting is an ancient tradition symbolizing the binding together of two people in love.  Tying the Knot.  This cord was created with the ribbons, on which are written the thoughts, hopes, well wishes, and blessings of friends and family for Thomas and Rebekah as they begin their union as husband and wife.  It will bind Thomas and Rebekah together with the strong bonds of love.



Significance of the colors:
1 Red: Passion
2 Orange: Encouragement
3 Yellow: Joy
4 Green: Growth
5 Dark Blue: Sincerity
6 Light Blue: Trust
7 Purple: Respect
8 Pink: Romance
9 Lavender: Kindness
10 Mauve: Devotion
11 Gold: Wisdom
12 Ivory: Celebration
13 Black: Strength
14 Silver: Patience
15 White: Purity

For such bonds to be strong, they need support - not only from the couple themselves, but most of all, they will need the support of their community of family and friends.  Thank you all for your continuing blessings.
With the entwining of this knot, I tie all the desires, dreams, love, prayers and happiness wished here in this place to your lives.

"THESE ARE THE HANDS" –author unknown
These are the hands of your best friend, young, strong, and full of love for you.
These are the hands that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief wracks your mind.
These are hands that will countless times wipe tears from your eyes, tears of joy and tears of sorrow.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children and grandchildren.
These are the hands that will help hold your family together as one.
These are hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that even when wrinkled with age will still be reaching for yours, still giving the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Remember then, as your hands are fasted, these are symbols of the relationship you share.
Bride and Groom’s hands are bound

Blessing of the Marriage
"May the Lord bless you and keep you: May the Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious unto you: May the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace."

May the Lord be merciful as his favor looks upon you, and fills you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting.  In the name of God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit we pray.  Amen.

Declaration of Marriage

Thomas and Rebekah, we have heard your promise to share your lives in marriage.  We recognize and respect the covenant of marriage you have made here this day before each one of us as witnesses.
Therefore, in the honesty and sincerity of what you have said and done, it is my honor and delight to declare you henceforth to be husband and wife.
Thomas you may kiss your bride.

Introduction of the couple
It is my personal privilege and a great joy to be the first to introduce Mr. and Mrs. ______.

Posted on July 30, 2012 at 8:22 am
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These are perfect!  I am literally going through the same thing.  THANK YOU!

Posted on August 10, 2012 at 3:55 am
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I'll email you my script.

Posted on August 10, 2012 at 5:06 am
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We actually worked with our officiant to write our ceremony, and I might be biased, but I think it's beautiful. We certainly had religious elements, but we also had non-religious readings and unique, meaningful aspects, too. Our entire ceremony, verbatim, is here in my bio:

http://www.projectwedding.com/biography/list/fromcoldtofire/our-ceremony
Posted on August 10, 2012 at 5:25 am
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Ours wasnt religious as we had a friend as our officiant but maybe help out for some ideas


its in 4 parts on my bio


Part 1 Ceremony and reading


Part 2 Vows and reading


Part 3 rings


Part 4 Kiss the bride   


Im sure you will find the perfect way to make it unique and personal. 


Let us know how it turns out.


Good luck :)


 


 

Posted on August 10, 2012 at 8:02 am

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