Here is a question for you....

When you and your guy DTD is there usually foreplay involved? Or does he say "let's do it" and you all ready to go? I believe woman work more off of emotions....I know I do.

If I just finished folding a load of laundry and he says he wants some I'm going to be like ok?? So what are you going to do to get me in the mood? I don't think he quite understands that my mind does not work the way his does. I need to feel wanted, heck you might need to whisper sweet nothings in my ear, touch my gently and than I may be in the mood. But just saying "Hey lets do it!" is not going to work......

What are your thoughts on this? Do you need a little warm up before DTD or are you ready to go anywhere and anytime?
Posted on April 28, 2010 at 4:01 pm
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Alatiel
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We usually don't do foreplay, and if we do, it's not much.  It's usually:  kissing, undressing, "scattered" kissing (not lips)/groping, then "the deed".  

Posted on April 28, 2010 at 5:35 pm
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forplay... sometimes...  it really just depends on what kind of mood I'm in...  sometimes I don't feel like all the forplay stuff I just want the real thing... lol


If there was NEVER forplay involved though I would get really irritated personally.

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 3:37 am
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I totally hear ya, Melly! My DH is the same way and doesn't understand why I don't get all excited over just hearing the words "let's do it!" Then when we do get a little playtime before hand, it's like 2 minutes worth and I'm still not entirely in the mood.

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 7:27 am
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We spend quite a bit of time on foreplay pretty much every time.  If not then it's painful for me.

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 9:42 am
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Depends on the mood, if I'm tired foreplay is like UGH to me, but if it's early enough, I LOVE it cause that is the only way that my mind gets into it!  Massages make me melt, but not at 11:30pm on a workday dear FI.....

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 10:01 am
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With me, I only initiate if I'm actually horny, but he just asks all the time and if I say yes, he gets horny! We don't usually do much foreplay, we just get into it. But that's okay with me!

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 2:48 pm
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If I'm already horny in general I can be good to go pretty quick. Otherwise, I need some warming up

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 3:04 pm
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If I'm raring to go, I don't want to waste the time, but 8/10 times I need to be primed, or else it hurts and I don't enjoy myself. Which, surprisingly FI notices. Then I usually get extra after kisses and an extra close cuddle to make up for it.  But if you've ever experienced blue balls for women, sometimes extra cuddles doesn't amount to a hill of beans, LOL.

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 3:04 pm
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He usually does what he thinks is enough.  Most times I dont feel like working too much.


If i tell him, he is good and getting me going.

Posted on April 29, 2010 at 3:56 pm
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With out foreplay it is like eating your cereals  with out milk and bowl.


We both love foreplay and it can last of an hour...

Posted on April 30, 2010 at 1:10 am
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FI is good with the foreplay.  I don't ever have to tell or ask him to do things...he just does it which is nice.  With my ex I had to give so much explanation that I sounded like an instruction manual.

Posted on April 30, 2010 at 5:03 am
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its horrible. But were the opposite. Chris is all into foreplay and getting in the mood, im on a timecrunch yall. lol

Posted on April 30, 2010 at 11:02 pm
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You know.. that is beautiful thing about marriage.. You give to him sometimes when you dont necessarily feel like it..but he will do for you as well. Then when the moons align and your both on the same page!! whew.. we call that brad paisley sex in our house..thats a whole nother story!!.

Posted on May 1, 2010 at 5:53 pm
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there is always foreplay , an post cuddles i guess im spoiled

Posted on May 13, 2010 at 6:24 am
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It doesn't take me too long to warm up, he knows enough to do something before hand....this car does not like running cold... but he's a gentlemen and puts me first... even when he's raring to go.

Posted on June 1, 2010 at 9:45 am
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love foreplay, we do it almost everytime =)

Posted on August 23, 2010 at 6:25 pm
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He is always the initiator and I am admittedly a submissive woman and have no issues with sex but there are some things I must mentally overcome to become the dominant one. So FH usually knows how and is great at getting my temperature rising ;)

Posted on August 24, 2010 at 2:35 am
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I need to have some foreplay, otherwise it just hurts. I can be all horny and wanting to go but I need to have natural lube to do it! FI knows, so he won't do anything until he feels I'm ready. I'm not a very emotional sex person (funny description, I know). Sex is fun, cuddling is emotional. Somehow the two don't really go together for me, but I understand and know that for many women it's completely linked. I actually think my FI is the more emotional of us two, sex-wise.
Posted on August 24, 2010 at 2:47 am
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I need foreplay, but he's DOSEN"T. he's ALWAY ready to go.

Posted on August 24, 2010 at 4:22 am
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He's usually pretty giving with the foreplay, but he's not much into big juicy kisses on the lips.  Anybody else have this issue?

Posted on August 24, 2010 at 10:14 am
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