Hi ladies..im so confused please help

I am already a pw bride who posts often but made up a fake name because im so embarrsted and i dont want my husband to see this. 


I was home working today and got the mail..and in the mail was an already halfed opened package for him.  So inocently i look into and find "Xtend" penis enlargement pills.  I don't know what to think. 


First off, he doesnt NEED them!!  I am happy with that part of his body and alway tell him that.  Now I wonder...is it me? Does he think our sex life is bad, not satisfying or whatever??? 


More so I am hurt that he was going to hide this from me! I am his wife!! This could potentially danger me or him and he coudn't tell me.


So I called him at and he got all mad and embarresed and hung up on me.  I called back again and he screamed at me that he didn't want to talk about it and hung up on me again!!


I am overreacting? Am I thinking its about me when its not? Please help me!! I have been hysterical for the past 15 minutes.  I know all you ladies so well and needed your advice again but just couldn't do it under my usual account.


PLease help...im beside myself

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 10:22 am
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JVilleBride2010
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I dont think it's you, I think that maybe he may seem insecure and wanted to take the pills without your knowledge and now that you know it's embarrassing for him.  You have to remember men are very big on their pride and egos and do not want anyone especially the woman of their life to see the insecurities that they have.

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 10:43 am
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i know ur right but he wont even speak to me now..so upset.

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 10:53 am
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I have to say that I don't think that it's you at all...  men are very sensitive about matters like that.  I'm sure he didn't discuss it with you becase he's very self concious about it.


extenz is also for sexual enhancement...  maybe he wanted somethin just to spice things up a bit.  I say give him a little time to cool off about it and I'm sure he'll come to you and talk to you!

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 11:00 am
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thanks!  i think this was strickly penis enlargement though.

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 11:22 am
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I had a neighbor who got breast augmentation- she was gone a few days for surgery and didn't even tell her kids what it was for!  She really wanted it but was so embarrassed about it...people are weird about things like that.  I really wouldn't let this get under your skin.

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 11:32 am
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I think that now you know his reaction when you bring it up, you need to be patient and wait for him to calm down and come to you. The girls above me a right - men are very sensitive about this topic, so unless its discussed on their terms, if at all, they're not going to talk about it. It's a hard situation to be in knowing that he was keeping something so intimate from you, but I am sure that there is a good reason behind this. And next time, no matter how open that package already is, don't look inside!

Posted on December 21, 2009 at 11:35 am
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Ditto everyone else .... Every man I have ever known is sensitive about the "penis size topic" ....  Just like women grow up being told "thin is in"   men grow up feeling like "bigger is better"


THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!!!!!  ..... You have to know that ...give him some time .... and let him keep this to himself ...he is obviously mortified that you know about it , so I wouldn't try to bring it up again 


((hugs)) ...sorry he isn't talking to you right now and yelled at you :( 

Posted on December 22, 2009 at 1:03 am
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Ditto everyone else. But I just wanted to give you HUGS!!! Men are weird about their size. I guess it's like how women are with their clothes size or weight.

Posted on December 22, 2009 at 1:11 am
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It doesn't matter how big a guy is...he wishes he were bigger.  And it doesn't matter how long he goes...he wishes it were longer.  That's just how guys are.  I'm sure it has nothing to do with his being unsatisfied.


I'm sorry that you are going through this and I'm sorry that he isn't willing to talk about it.

Posted on December 22, 2009 at 2:06 am
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Not to worry. DH ordered some Enzite with our old roommates to "see what it was like". It was soooooooo funny b/c it didn't work and all of them got hives! I was like, see, that's what you get for messing with something that wasn't broke to begin with, lol!


IMO, he's probably just curious more than anything, but if you are concerned it's a self esteem issue, talk to him about it and pet his ego a bit. Maybe be a little more vocal in the bedroom about how wonderful he really is (I mean when he isn't using it) so that he realizes that he doesn't need it.


On another level, that kind of stuff can also be dangerous. Viagra was originally created as high blood pressure/heart medicaition and the "ehem" was a side-effect of the drug. If that enlargement stuff hasn't been checked out by the FDA, you don't really know what could be in it. Keep a careful watch on him if he seems weird after taking it. I just saw a newer episode of Keeping Up With The Kardashians and Rob drank some coffee Chris made for Bruce which had some male enhancement stuff in it and the poor guy had to go to the hospital b/c he had been "up" all day, which could be dangerous and if it goes too long, they would have to drain the blood, which would really suck for your FI.

Posted on January 6, 2010 at 6:14 am
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I think men are just insecure about that body part sometimes. Just like if you feel "fat" and he tells you that you are not, but you wont believe him because you think you are fat.


So let him cool down and then talk about it. Maybe jokingly say something to break the ice because I am sure an intense convo will only embarrass him. 

Posted on January 8, 2010 at 6:59 am

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