How are you adjusting to married life?

DH and I have lived together over a year before we got married, but I must say that since our wedding (March 5th) I’ve been I guess what you call “nesting” more.  I feel more bonded to him (if that even makes sense!) and I am really wanting to turn our house into a home.  DH has recently changed shifts so he is now home for dinner every night, so I am planning out all of our meals for the week so I am more organized.


 


It’s the craziest thing because nothing else has changed but now that I am married I feel that I need to be a the best wife possible..LOL!  Is anyone else going through something similar? 

Posted on March 31, 2010 at 6:29 am
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I think I am one of those rare ppl that feels that barely anything has changed since we got married.


The only 'real' change I noticed was that I feel a bit more patient...something that annoyed me before I kinda just swallow...I make a conscious effort not to sweat the small stuff and try to make H feel appreciated...I don't want to be one of those couples that wakes up after 5 years and is like "what the hell happened to us??", kwim??

Posted on March 31, 2010 at 6:49 am
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It's weird.  We lived together for a little over a year before we got married too, and I wasn't expecting anything to change.  Maybe that seems silly, but I literally thought nothing would change at all.  And in a way, it hasn't, but in a way it has.  Now, we aren't two people just living in a house together that love each other.  We're married.  Maybe it's the security of it?  It's almost like if we had problems before, there wasn't this formal commitment to work things out.  I mean we both always wanted to work out whatever problems came up, but it was still different.  I didn't think that anything was missing before, but now it seems like there is something extra there.  So yeah, I get what you are talking about.

Posted on March 31, 2010 at 6:55 am
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I was JUST talking about this--we lived together for over a year, so I thought there wouldn't really be a change...but there HAS been!   And not necessarily for the best...I'm not saying things are bad, it's just a lot more complicated and a lot more work than I expected.  :)  Sometimes I REALLY miss my independence...

Posted on March 31, 2010 at 4:15 pm
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I don't feel that much has changed. We've actually been married for a year, but the wedding was this January so I don't feel much of a difference. Now everyone knows that we're married and it's less complicated when I say "My husband" :) 

Posted on April 1, 2010 at 1:50 am
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Well I just got married 2 weeks ago and its been a big change. We didn't live together before we got married besides the "sleep overs" and we have spent most of our relationship in a long distance one! Its been really nice and I am adjusting really well in my opinion. It still doesn't completely feel like me are married it sometimes just feels like we are having a really long "sleep over" but I think I am getting there with the name changing things and joining of accounts and moving all my stuff in! 

Posted on April 3, 2010 at 3:10 pm
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One of my close friends said it perfectly about a month after we were married.


"Nothing is different, but something has changed"


I could not agree more with her... I feel like pretty much everything is exactly the same but SOME thing has changed for us and for the better. We still bicker and stuff like we have always done, we also both have VERY strong personalities... but we never actually FIGHT which is think is the most important part and the bickering is even less now which is kinda cool. I definitely feel more bonded to him or more secure... not only cause we have the same last name now, but I really feel like he is my family... which is a HUGE deal. I absolutely LOVE being married :)

Posted on April 5, 2010 at 7:36 am
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yeah, I also agree with that soon2beMRStip....

Posted on April 5, 2010 at 8:25 am
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Things changed for us. We had been together for 8yrs before being married but only living together for a year before we got married at my parents house. It was hard adjusting to moving in together for real. I didn't even consider his opinion when decorating the apartment and things like that, because I never had too. I was used to doing what I wanted and not considering his point of view. It was a slow transition but things are great now!

Posted on April 6, 2010 at 12:57 am
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I agreee with soon2bmrs quote "Nothing is different, but something has changed"


It is so true.  Everything seems the same but I think when I look over at DH and realize he is my family it makes everything so much greater.  Like we have a huge responsibility towards each other to not only take care of each other but to love each other with everything we have.  I can't just get mad tomorrow and say "we're done".... we have to work it out.  it has been an amazing shift and i love being married even more than i thought i would, lol.

Posted on April 6, 2010 at 1:48 am
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midnyteblue....You said that perfectly!!!  I really identify with what you say...DH is really now my family and means so much more than being his girlfriend/fiance. 

Posted on April 7, 2010 at 6:15 am

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