How are you handling wedding planning while apart?

Have you been completely entrusted with all the aspects of wedding planning or are you and FI trying to coordinate it together while he's on deployment?


If it's the latter, how is that working out?

Posted on August 13, 2009 at 11:28 am
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It is all me!


I think it makes FI feel a little bad that he is missing it all, which makes me sad. I try to keep him informed of everything- he pretends like he doesn't care, but I know it makes him feel good to be part of it.


He is really bummed about missing the cake tasting!


The wedding is just about 1 1/2 months after the date of his redeployment- so it really gives us something to look forward to. Instead of a countdown to coming home, he has a countdown to the wedding- it kind of makes my heart melt :)

Posted on August 13, 2009 at 11:59 am
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It's all me too.  Steve is gone for 5 weeks during this CRUCIAL planning time.  Invitations were done by me and my friends.  Addressing by myself.  Stuffing envelopes by myself.  The list goes on...  :)  He feels really bad but he's SO busy at the course he's at so I couldn't ask him to do too much.  :(

Posted on August 13, 2009 at 1:10 pm
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He's pretty laid back and doesn't care too much about the invites or decor, etc but we are trying to get our honeymoon planned and things like that and hes in the middle of the freakin california desert on training....phone calls are MAYBE once a week so its really hard to catch up and tell him I miss him as WELL as try to straighten out things we need to discuss...we still are ten months out from the wedding but its stressful cuz his deployment is up in the air and the uncertainty of it all just plain sucks...but in the end the stress of missing him is worse than the stress of wedding planning

Posted on August 17, 2009 at 1:56 pm
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"the stress of missing him is worse than the stress of wedding planning" 


I totally agree- 100% 


 

Posted on August 20, 2009 at 4:48 am
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yeap..military life is hard..BUT knowing what he does makes a difference makes me such a proud wife and makes it all seem worth it :)

Posted on August 20, 2009 at 10:20 am
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You ladies rock!  I hope that you know that EVERYONE appreciates the sacrifices you and FI / DH make - even if it seems as if they don't.  Some people might not like the wars, but everyone loves our soldiers.  <3

Posted on August 25, 2009 at 6:54 am
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its all me. he knows ill make it awesome. and i soooo am lol

Posted on September 25, 2009 at 9:34 pm
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He helped me make the decisions, he trusted my judgement but I still talked things over with him...He wants me to have the wedding i love, so he's cool with mostly everything, but I sure wish he would have been there to be happy about our church, reception etc....:) He's incharge of the honeymoon.

Posted on September 26, 2009 at 5:34 pm
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It is SO nice to hear that I am not alone in all of this. I wouldn't trade my FI for anything in the world but I know this isn't gonna be easy.
Posted on March 26, 2011 at 2:59 pm
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My husband was deployed for nine months and then had to report to his new unit in California while I planned our wedding in Illinois. It was definitely hard just because I was balancing working, packing, budgeting and planning all by myself, but to be honest...the men aren't so interested in the details anyways. At least he was there on the phone when I needed to lean on him emotionally, or to discuss things that he wanted to be a part of. My friends really stepped up during that time though, so that was helpful as well!

Posted on April 8, 2011 at 7:42 pm
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I'm right there with all of you! All alone, well kind of, my mom has been helping me a lot. Not sure I could get all of this done on such short notice without her to be honest.


However, like some of you mentioned the guys really don't care about the little details and I know that if my DF was here helping me he would probably drive me up the wall! When he wasn't deployed and I was just starting the planning and he was more involved he would have an opinion about what he wanted but didn't understand the price tag that came with those wants!


Him not being here almost makes it easier in that sense because I can give him choices within the budget rather then him seeing/hearing about something that is completely out of the question. It has a tendency to lead to a "Well it cost $XXXX" "Why does it cost that much! It shouldn't cost that much, I could do that for $X"  -boys haha


Posted on April 24, 2011 at 11:09 pm

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