How important are invitations?

How important are invitations? The invitation supposedly introduces the mood and theme of the wedding, but do the guests notice?
Posted on March 12, 2007 at 11:34 am
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jeanie
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I can tell a good invitation from a bad one, if that's what you're asking. Beyond that, they all blend together.
Posted on March 12, 2007 at 1:01 pm
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It's cool to have a nice invitation, but I think most people don't really remember it after the wedding.
Posted on March 13, 2007 at 6:54 am
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True, it can set the overall tone... but generally speaking I just love invitiations for all the originality and always try to keep mine nicely stashed away as a momentos.

Posted on October 8, 2008 at 10:21 pm
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they get thrown away... It's important for them to look nice, but for those on a budget, a total DIY project!

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 1:57 am
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I think they are really important in setting the ambiance for the wedding.  We have recieved some pretty bad, poorly put together invitations and the wedding definitly followed suit. 


I think it may not be a case of nice/bad or less/more expensive invitations, but your guests should know that you put time and effort into inviting them.  I'm sure you can buy expensive invitations that are generic and bland and that guest would be under impressed with. 


I agree that eventually all inviatations get thrown away or lost, but I know myself and my family will keep our invitations forever, so I wanted to make sure that in 20 years I could look at them and still think "wow those were awesome!"

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 2:06 am
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I think the invitation definitely sets the mood for the wedding but i dont think people should go crazy on invitations... it is something most people will just throw away and wont remember except for you and some close family and friends...

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 2:13 am
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I'm with perky... you want to set the mood but not go broke over it. =o )

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 2:40 am
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i agree that they set the tone for the wedding...kind of lets people know what to expect...but the last wedding we went to....the invitations/dresses/decor....none of it matched....it was weird....but I wanted nice ones, because when i get one, I go over every detail of it...i'm weird like that though!! :)

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 2:43 am
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they are very important to me too. Im a paper freak! texture this, color that! lol Its probably next important to my photog. The fun part is being able to create our own, and then sending your thoughts and ideas to the designer.  BUT, im not going broke over these. Just b/c I know everyone will throw them away afterwards. I mean, Ive saved pretty invites until FI came along and tossed them out because it was a bunch of "junk" to him!

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 3:36 am
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I have told people before, I can ALWAYS tell the elegance, theme, or tackiness of a wedding from as early as the invitation.  To me the invitations ususally says it all & is the introduction of what the guests are in store for.  If I'm sent an invitation with elegance or tackiness, I usually already know wedding will not be too far off from that!


On the other hand, I don't feel that invitations should be very costly.  There are many ways to create a BEAUTIFUL invite without spending too much.

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 3:55 am
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invitations are a waste imo


as a guest, i only need to know the date, time and location


i dont care if it's tacky or elegant; i dont mind if it's in the 'hood or in a ballroom - all i care about is being there to share the day with close friends and/or family


people are too concerned with "image" - meanwhile there's lack of substance... it seems like everyone is trying to attain celebrity status among their friends with their outrageous weddings when really nobody cares...


it's analogous to the guy with a little dick driving a flashy car...or the person who projects that they ahve to have the best of everything meanwhile they dont have any cash in the bank and are charging everthing...


that said - i'm going through myjeanm for my invites - nothing fancy, but not exactly photocopied fliers from kinkos either...

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:02 am
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Well I believe that but I also know that the majority of people will open, say "look how beautiful" and throw it away.

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:04 am
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sarah!! no kidding eh??   i know i do!


p.s.  jealous that youre having filipino food at your reception!!!

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:06 am
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Amen d1rty!  I agree with you.  Of all the weddings I've ever been to, I do not remember NOT ONE invitation.  But I do remember the wording of one particular invite, which I thought was beautiful.  So I will worry more about what it says than how it looks.  But I expect my invites to be simple and I plan to spend under 100 dollars. 

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:06 am
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yeah, mine are really simple - one layer - no embellishment, no fancy printing technique - i think we're spending $300... give or take

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:09 am
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I KNOOOWWWW I will be soooo pissed if I dont get to eat at my wedding haha! Our invites will probably be around $200-300.

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:11 am
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I agree with the all you need to know is who, what, where, and when!


I was going to DIY invites, just something simple and elegant - self printed with maybe a damask rubberstamp for embellishment, clear address label.


But my dad's girlfriend runs her own graphic design business and she insisted that she do the invites as her gift. There's no arguing with that!  So I gave her some examples of designs that I like, and lined her out on the wording I prefer.  She said all she needs from me is a digital address list - and then the print press can put them right onto the evelopes along with the bulk shipping. Sweet.

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:12 am
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prbetsi, we were under $100 as well. I think the grand total, including postage, was $87, but keep in mind that included the thank you cards and envelopes!

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:14 am
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I know april!  Thanks to you I discovered that ebay site for invites, which is who I plan to use!!! 

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:16 am
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We started out with expsensive invitations ($400+) in mind and then realized that most people will probably throw them away after the wedding.  We are sticking with regular plain white invitations that will cost us hundreds of dollars less and we're okay with that. 

Posted on October 9, 2008 at 4:19 am
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