How long?

FI & I were talking about how long we should wait before the wedding to DTD so on our wedding night it will have "been awhile"... So How long are yall going to wait?  If yall are waiting at all...  I'm just curious if other people have talked/discussed this.

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 2:52 am
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nope, I don't think we'll hold off at all....FI isn't that type (and neither am I!) Although I might suggest it just to see if he would go for it.

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 2:57 am
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I know a lot of couples decide to do this...but personally I see nothing romantic about forcing physical estrangement. For us, being together intimately is more than just physical. It's a special bond that we share only with each other. In the time leading up to the wedding I needed more than ever to have that physical reminder of our closeness, to really feel the intimate privacy between us, and to relieve the stress! When we feel that need for each other it's healthy to act on it, I couldn't imagine rejecting him or he rejecting me on the premise of it somehow making our wedding night more special. Our first time together after the wedding was so special and different because it was our first time as husband and wife, that made it so exciting and we didn't have to abstain to feel that way. Plus, sometimes after a long break apart, that first time "back in the saddle" will be over super quick!! LOL who wants that?


 


there are lots of reasons to do this and lots of couple choose this. You have to decide what's best for you two as a couple. But those are my thoughts on it

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 2:58 am
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maybe just the night before we wont dtd?  but thats probably about as long as we'll hold off, we havent really talked about it, we dont like to 'put limits' on our dtd, as my fiance likes to say  -lol!

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 3:37 am
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Def at least hold off the night before, lol :)

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 4:59 am
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oh boy we tried to hold off a week and failed lol so bad i know, but with all the wedding stress we could resist!

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 6:29 am
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We have talked aout a month before but we both highly doubt that it'll happen :)

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 8:22 am
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We had a DW in Jamaica, so we didn't wait...we didn't want to waste "vacation sex" time.

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 8:30 am
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I'm in the same boat as Meanyprice.  We had a DW in Las Vegas so we didn't hold back.

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 9:31 am
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We will probably hold off from March 1st until our wedding night March 20th. We don't live together and we have gone without DTD for much longer then that! We were a long distance relationship for two years of our relationship and sometimes now we go that long because we don't have anytime alone. I also will be going to my parents house to get some things done and my mom will be here the week leading up so definitely no then! 


If we can't make it the 20 days it will at least be that week! 

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 11:09 pm
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I thought it would be a good idea but FI said nope!!

Posted on February 5, 2010 at 3:09 am
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I don't think I could even do that..... I might go crazy, especially if I have to be around his mom at all.....

Posted on February 6, 2010 at 4:31 pm
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i've asked the same question in the main forum becaue the FI had a convo about this one night...i said i wanted to try for at least a month..he said that wasnt going to happen with me beside him...haha

Posted on February 6, 2010 at 7:14 pm
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We'll probably go about a week... we're getting married on new year's day, so we'll have Christmas a week before... and neither of our families will let us stay together when we visit. *eye roll*

Posted on February 7, 2010 at 7:43 pm
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LOL Ladyhope...too funny. 


We're going to have family in at least the week before, so, a week?  We've decided to, um, try new things after the wedding, so that's how it will be more exciting than usual!

Posted on February 8, 2010 at 11:45 am
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Um, we'll try for a couple of weeks. We'll see how that works... :D

Posted on February 8, 2010 at 1:38 pm
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wait for what???? not me....I would like to do it the night before if ain't tooo tired...and like a few days later to rest.

Posted on February 16, 2010 at 12:55 pm
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We're definetly not just stopping for no reason. IT's not going to be any more special just cuz you stopped a month before, it will probably just be quicker!

Posted on February 16, 2010 at 1:06 pm
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We are not going to do it the night before - that is all I can promise...

Posted on February 17, 2010 at 8:24 am
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we decided 2 weeks before the wedding no hanky panky

Posted on February 18, 2010 at 5:05 am

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