How much input is too much?
One of my close friends is getting married in March. It started out as a destination wedding in Florida, changed to a ceremony and reception at local park in Detroit, two weeks ago they were eloping and as of today she is having ceremony in Warren, Michigan and reception in June. Two days ago she decided to get married on March 12, which is a Tuesday because this is her and FI's birthday. She said the time was 5:30 and I was thinking great, will give me time to get home by 4:30, change and me and Cale leave out at 5:00 to be there at 5:30. I asked her what were they doing afterwards, and she said she had no idea, but then said someone suggested all who wanted to attend go to an italian restaurant Maggiano's and we would have to pay for our meal. Cale fussed about this because he said that was in poor taste to ask your guest to pay for their own food, but conceded.
I just received a text that the time changed to 5:00. I am like huh? What place lets you change time like that so close to your date, but I tell her I probably won't be able to attend because I don't get off work until 4:00 and Warren, MI is not close to where I work. I ask her why did she change the time and she said FI's mother wanted her family to attend. I text her back I don't understand, the time got moved up earlier instead of later, so why wouldn't they be able to attend and she has not text me back. She was texting me all morning excited and now I think she is crestfallen because of the time change. The destination wedding changed because FI's mother said she didn't want to go all the way to Florida. The ceremony and reception changed because FI's mother had a problem with that. They decided not to elope because FI's mother said no family would be there and now she has changed the time of her wedding so now I can't attend as well as people close to her.
So ladies, how much influence or input would you allow from your parents or FI's parents or from anybody? I know she is going to look back on her day and have many regrets. . .I have always said from the beginning to any bride who has second thoughts or people taking over the details of their day - YOUR DAY, YOUR WAY!!!