How To Be The Perfect Wife

Have you seen this site?


Stepford Wives


At first I thought it was a joke, but the more I looked around on the site the more I think there are people who really do believe in this!


Check it out...you will be amazed often by so many things they write about how to be the perfect wife!

Posted on January 10, 2010 at 6:27 pm
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Here are some of the most ridiculous "rules" on the site for wives to follow


Always be thinner than necessary to promote fragility.


Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.


We are meant to be seen, not heard!


You have no right to question him.

Posted on January 10, 2010 at 6:33 pm
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AHAHAHAHAHAHA.... that just makes me laugh... I need to check out this site.

Posted on January 10, 2010 at 11:39 pm
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ya know the weird thing is that SOME of the advice onthe site I actually agree with and follow myself day to day in my marriage.....but then they go and ruin it with that kind of over the top sexist crap...it blows my mind that there are men and women who believe in that kind of inequality, as if women are pets

Posted on January 11, 2010 at 2:46 am
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I mean I probably agree with some of it as well... but the things you posted are freaking nuts!!!


Always be thinner than necessary to promote fragility. AHAHAHAHAHA...


Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. GET REAL


You have no right to question him. Thats REALLY funny... so I guess he can just do whatever he wants with whoever he wants whenever HE wants... I DONT think so...


I mean he is not God... he is a husband and normally that requires a partnership!!! LOL

Posted on January 11, 2010 at 7:20 am
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Some of that is really funny.  It's like The Rules for married woman.

Posted on January 11, 2010 at 5:47 pm
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The ladies at work read this stuff to me as a joke at my wedding shower!

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 2:21 am
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Oh my.


Wow.


Yeah.  . .you know I totally believe in somewhat traditional and conservative roles for the husband and wife, I love taking care of our home and cooking and making sure I always look nice for DH, I'm even looking forward to being a SAHM (I'll still do some work from home though) but this is taking it a bit too far.  


You start reading, and it sounds good. . .and then, WHAMO. . .craziness.  


supports the idea of the homemaking wife who is not only the cheery domestic goddess (yes), but a fantastic dresser (I try to be), neat as a pin (ok), a lady with good manners (always!), and a gracious (yes), well-behaved, obedient wife who always puts her man first. (WTF?)


believes that we should strive and spend all our free time to look pretty (sounds like fun!), since women at Stepford are meant to be seen, not heard.(again, WTF?)


DH and I are a TEAM.  We work together: I am not subservient to him, but we observe traditional roles because that works well for our respective careers.  He's out working 10 hour shifts making 4x more money than I do, while I get to stay at home and simply teach a few lessons each afternoon.  It works for us, but yeah, um, I'm not going to be 'seen and not heard'.  UGH.  


I think there is a LOT to be said for women being able to keep themselves and their home together (how many women do you know totally 'let themselves go' after the wedding because they 'got the guy'?) but it shouldn't be like 'I Love Lucy'.  Wow.  

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 2:47 am
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I totally agree mountainbride! Reading lot of it I would be totally agreeing until that last sentence that was just insane! I do take a few minutes before he comes home to freshen myself up, and I do try to greet him with a smile and not bombard him with negative crap the moment he walks in the door, and I do keep the house extra clean because I know he loves that. (and the only reason I'm doing the cleaning is that he works a LOT more than I do, if that was reversed I'd expect him to do the cleaning) But I in no way think I count any less or shouldn't have any opinions! I mean it it tells you not to ever read!


I don't even think that some of the advice is sexist, I think both partners should try to look their best for each other and do little things to make the other one feel special, just like we did when we were first dating. But this site has to give all of that a bad name by making it totally one-sided and outright saying that women should be second class citizens in their own homes and marriage. Totally nuts!


and I totally agree with you mountainbride about people who "let it go" now that they're married...men are just as guilty as women with this! We both try really hard to not let that happen and continue to "woo" each other

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 4:36 am
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I couldn't agree with this more Odessa:


I think both partners should try to look their best for each other and do little things to make the other one feel special, just like we did when we were first dating


It's so true that things like this website do give that a bad name.  If I think about all the really successful marriages I know, both parties involved make that extra effort to be sweet and treat each other like they were dating.  The people I know who are miserable have become complacent and no longer enjoy each other - it seems like work and effort to be together.


I'm a strong believer in 'even if I don't feel like it' making that effort to pick up the house and greet DH with a kiss when he comes home.  That doesn't make me feel subservient or secondary. . .it makes me feel special because you know what?  He turns right back around and offers to fend of sharks and walk the dog and give me back rubs and make me feel really loved.   If I didn't greet him like that I know for a fact it would be different: treat others how you want to be treated. 


The girls let themselves go, and/or the guys do. . .you're right!  It's very sad to see, especially if children are involved because then what are you teaching them about how to treat others and how to be an adult and how to be married?  No wonder we have a divorce problem in this country.  

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 5:01 am
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I don't believe in "natural" or "traditional" roles for marriage, so you can imagine what I think of BS like this. :P

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 5:02 am
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LOL...like I said, I don't think it's the woman's place to do this stuff, I think it's BOTH partners' place to try hard for each other.

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 5:24 am
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ditto Lilivati.  reading things like this makes me sick.  it reminds me why some men think it is OK to treat their wives like crap and why some women feel it is OK to be treated that way. 

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 5:31 am
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it reminds me why some men think it is OK to treat their wives like crap and why some women feel it is OK to be treated that way. 


Blech.  Definitely.  I HATE seeing women settle and put up with being treated like crap.  


The thing is, on that website, the women don't believe that they are being treated like crap.  They are perfectly happy.


What I hate is seeing women get beat up by their men, take it, and say 'oh, well, I deserve it.'  That's a psychological problem  :(

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 5:37 am
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well, then, if they are happy .... i guess, that is all that happens.  i know i wouldn't be happy thinking that way but if they are, more power to them.  maybe they have found the key to what works in their marriage and they are sticking to it.


i also hate "seeing women get beat up by their men, take it, and say 'oh, well, I deserve it" -- makes me very sad actually.

Posted on January 12, 2010 at 5:46 am
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Midnyte - I'm as confused by their happiness as you are :)  ^^^  I mean, more power to them, but yeah.  It seems like they are in this total marriage utopia. . .how many of those old 50's housewives though had serious drinking problems though because they had NO other way to cope with the fact that they were secondary to their husband, living a day-to-day lie about how truly 'happy' they were?  


 


 

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Posted on January 14, 2010 at 2:45 pm
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Okay I had to stop reading it when I got to the part about wearing a shower cap while cooking to keep the "malodorous"  odors out of your hair ....


 


Did you catch the part about it being okay for the man to 'experiment" outside the marriage ???   Whoa ...


 


Those poor poor brainwashed souls  ..... 


 

Posted on January 20, 2010 at 8:19 am
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We are meant to be seen, not heard! <--This one totally makes me crack up! I guess I won't be a perfect wife then!!! Haha, no. There are NO RULES!!!

Posted on April 10, 2010 at 9:13 am
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My husband is a firm believer in the edict "Do not speak unless you are spoken to," especially for a married woman when she's around her husband.


That's why Edwin and I (well, mostly Edwin) devised a fun exercise in Stepford manners to address this problem. When we are about to leave our home for the day, he would put a tablespoon of honey in my mouth. (You can use a variety of different fluids. Edwin happens to like honey on his pancakes, so we decided on that. The more personal the better. Let your imagination run wild! Whatever your husband chooses, just say "Yes!" with a smile and carry it in your mouth!) I then keep the honey in my mouth for however long Edwin decides. This way, I always remember to keep my mouth shut, and happily nod with a smile to whatever Edwin says


THIS CAN NOT BE SERIOUS! This just makes me so sad, and at the same time I wanna hit somebody!!!

Posted on April 10, 2010 at 9:28 am
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o geez...i hadn't even got to the good part....


This exercise also serves a double purpose: it trains us Stepford girls to respond to our master's snapping fingers. You'd be surprise how sensitive your hearing becomes when you have to hold his choice fluids in your mouth for half a day. It's almost as if you anticipate the sound of his snapping fingers! Try it! He'll be happy you did. And that's all that matters!

Posted on April 10, 2010 at 9:29 am
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