How would you handle uninvited plus ones?

I plan to give some of my guest the option of bringing a date, but not all of them.  I can already foresee some people sending me emails or text about this.  Most likley, they'll ask "Is it okay to bring so and so or can I bring a date?".  

What should I do if people ask?  I don't want to be mean, but at the same time, there are certain people I don't want there on my special day. Just need some advice on how to handle this situation.  What would you do?

Posted on August 6, 2014 at 10:14 pm
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 Tell them it's a small wedding and unfortunately everyone can't get a plus one. 

Its your day so be firm. 

I am in that same boat sort of-- I et it be known on the invite who has a + 1 and who doesn't. For someone that asked, I just said its a sml wedding and we can't accommodate everyone. I always told some ppl, I only invited couples, married ppl, or live in partners the we know. 

Good luck

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 12:12 am
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 Yes, I'm a bit concerned about this as well.  I know I will have to make some unpleasant phone calls but that's just the way it is.  

I agree with Linn, you just have to be firm and explain that as much as you would like to invite as many people as you want that the guestlist is limited.

Good luck.  It's the less fun part of wedding planning.

Posted on August 7, 2014 at 2:09 pm
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I like the idea of telilng them it's a small wedding with a limited guestlist.  I'll have to keep all this in mind when the time comes.  Thanks for the advice Linnn and Nichole! 

 

Posted on August 8, 2014 at 3:30 pm
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 This is something you should address on your wedding website. I have a page entitled "FAQ" where this will be addressed when our website goes live. If someone asks you over the phone or via text, give them the same answer that's on your website. Mine says something to the effect of, "while we would love for everyone to be able to bring a guest, space and budget restraints just won't allow it, and we have carefully selected our guest list to include those people who mean the most to us. We hope you will join us in celebrating a huge milestone for us!"

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 12:07 pm
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Do want makes you happy - to the end of the day it's your day and you are the star of the show :)
Posted on August 13, 2014 at 10:49 am
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I agree, it's YOUR wedding and you should not be guilted into allowing anyone you do not wish at your wedding.  Our best man and his wife invited some friends of theirs to OUR wedding and then asked us if it was ok. I was fuming!  I told them if there were any no shows yes, but if everyone showed up, I could not guarantee them a seat at a table together.  Luckily we had a table that could accommodate them. To this day, I don't understand how people can invite someone to an event where the hosts and the second level guest don't know each other!  It's as if all manner of social graces have gone to hell in a hand basket!  A wedding reception is carefully planned and budgeted.  That means each plate is $$$ and people just don't seem to understand that.

Posted on August 14, 2014 at 12:39 am

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