Husband having trouble...

So DH hasn't been able to um, finish the job so-to-speak the last 3 times we've done the BD.  I'm not sure if its stress or the pressure that's throwing things off and I haven't made a big deal out of it, but I'm getting kind of annoyed....like what's the problem?  I need those suckers to get in there!  Haha.  I'm not sure what to do.  I'm never going to get preggers if this keeps up!  Any suggestions??

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 6:43 am
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Do you think that the pressure of "getting those suckers in there to get preggers" is putting some pressure on his ehhhem manhood?

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 6:46 am
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That's what I think it may be, but I've never put any pressure on him, so I think he's doing it to himself.  I keep thinking "is there something wrong with me?"

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 6:47 am
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oh dear. perhaps he could tell you're getting annoyed? even though you dont say anything to him about it and pretend its no big deal, maybe he's feeling your real vibes and the pressure is getting to him. poor guy. not to be TMI but how often are you doing it? if you're doing it twice a day or everyday it might be more difficult. i heard you try to do it no more than every other day to save up the "suckers".

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 6:51 am
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We've only tried every other day or every 2 days.  Maybe you're right, WM....could I be sending subconscious signals that he's picking up on?  Guess I need to calm down and let things happen when they do.

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 6:58 am
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maybe you should plan a date night with some wine!  a nice relaxing evening in, cook his fave dinner!  then end in some VS lingerie and actually enjoy making love instead of thinking "BABY MAKING! BABY MAKING!"  try to go back to your earlier days in the relationship when you just couldn't keep your hands off of each other...try that state of mind :)

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 7:09 am
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We had this problem, it might becomming a "chore" instead of something fun ya know? Before, the goal was to O, now it's a whole life altering thing lol. We got to a point where I was just having him call me into the room when he was ready to make his deposit lol. It was just too routine
Posted on December 9, 2009 at 7:12 am
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oh i love al0626's idea! that's true. seduce him and it'll take him back to the time when you two were carefree lovers!

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 7:14 am
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i know what you mean here.  i had that happen once with DH and I think it was me.  We both want a baby but now that i finally O'ed i was lie LETS DO THIS loland it ended up like a chore...which sucks.  I also love al0626's idea!!  its so important to feel that connection still.

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 8:03 am
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Thanks for the advice!  I will def try the whole romantic evening thing.  I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who's experienced this and really appreciate your thoughts and ideas.

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 8:22 am
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best of luck to you kari!!

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 8:44 am

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