hypothetical question about e-rings

What would you do if your FI told you the ring was diamond and from Tiffany's, but it turned out to be fake (except for the box)?
Posted on July 27, 2007 at 8:38 am
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I'd ask him what else he has lied to me about! I would be upset about the lie, not the fake Tiffany's ring! Obviouly there would be an issue of trust there...

Unfortunately, guys feel extreme pressure to propose with an amazing ring! They don't realize that 99.9% of us would say yes to a pop top! Seriously, my FI put a lot of pressure on himself re: my e-ring (which I adore, but it is WAY more than I ever imagined he would have gotten me)...maybe it's because they think we have grand expectations or maybe they want to impress other people? I dunno. I think if that pressure leads to a lie, then there's a bigger problem. There will be may expectations and pressures in marriage and lying cannot be a solution, no matter how convenient.
Posted on July 27, 2007 at 8:48 am
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I agree with lori, I'd be more upset at the lie than the ring. I would definitely ask him why he lied and if there was anything else up his sleeve.
Posted on July 27, 2007 at 8:57 am
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I agree with Lori too. I would be more upset about the lie than the ring itself, and I'd ask him why he had to lie about it and what else he'd lie about because at that point, I am going to lose a bit of trust in him.
Posted on July 27, 2007 at 9:43 am
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(1) i would be upset at why he felt he had to lie about it, and
(2) i would hope that i didn't come across as the type of girl that needed a tiffany engagement ring.
Posted on July 27, 2007 at 11:18 am
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I agree - I'd be upset he lied. I'd also be upset that he thinks I'd only say yes to a Tiffany ring. Then I'd tell him to go get me some real bling. Ha ha.
Posted on July 27, 2007 at 12:04 pm
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Heeeey!! I thought you said you weren't going to tell anybody!!

Last time I share secrets with you..
Posted on July 27, 2007 at 12:27 pm
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OMG...that would be it!!
Posted on July 28, 2007 at 2:35 pm
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My first thought was, "OMG, I hope he wasn't ripped off."
If he knowingly did it, I would be upset about the lie.
Posted on July 30, 2007 at 4:06 am
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I was just going to say the same thing Pudgeefeet.

If he bought the ring online and the seller told him it was real from Tiffany?s, that?s one thing. However if he knew it was a fake and was purposely trying to deceive you that?s quite another.

I would be upset if he was lying to me, not about the ring.
Posted on July 31, 2007 at 6:12 am
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I read a suggestion in the newspaper the other day that the best thing for a couple to do before they get married is BE HONEST with each other about their finances (the #1 reason for splits!). They suggested sitting down together and downloading your credit reports and swapping. Anyways... your situation, although hypothetical, made me think of this again. There shouldn't be any surprises!
Posted on August 1, 2007 at 1:51 pm
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I would be upset about the lie since to me it's not about how big the ring is or how expensive. It's what it represent. I love my e-ring and so better what I'd imagine what my e-ring would look like. But what I I love the most is knowing FI didn't need to break the bank to get me a beautiful ring. I had told FI that he doesn't need to spend a whole lot of money and I would be upset if he did.

I sure hope this is really a hypotethical question
Posted on August 7, 2007 at 8:28 am

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