I don't want to be a Matron of Honor for my sister's wedding. Advice?
I was married last year. My sister was my maid of honor. She complained the whole time about the pressure of being a maid of honor and how she didn't know how to do anything. She did not throw any showers or party. My friends stepped up. But I felt thoroughly embarassed. She rarely helped and when she did she made it seem like she was doing a huge favor for me. She complained to my mom how much pressure she felt and how ungrateful she felt I was being my mom defended her. I've always taken care of her like she's a daughter not a younger sister. So I was very disappointed when she didn't step up. She was drunk at my wedding and ddin't help me with much during the wedding. She did make a speech. About 5 months after my wedding, her friend got married and my sister was the maid of honor. She threw the bridal shower, researched and helped her friend. Even asked me to help her friend. I was pretty sickened. So now she's getting married and she wants me to be the matron of honor. I don't want to at all. She left a pretty bad taste in my mouth. If I don't, my family will say I'm being petty. But I'm just really hurt by the whole thing. I know if I become the matron of honor, I'll end up doing everything for her because I've always done everything for her. Advice? Am I being petty? I don't even know how to feel at this point but confused.