I need a LOT of help :(

We're having our wedding at a state historic site/park. I've got several issues that are stressing me out. And we're on a super tight budget.

 

1. My friend has a BBQ catering company and she is doing the catering. However, she's not providing plates. Do I do buffet style and no plates at the table, but up near the food? Plates on the tables and guests bring it up to get food? Buy plates? Rent them? Same with silverware. And where do all the dirty dishes go?!

2. We're doing a serve-yourself bar. I don't want liquor because I don't trust people to cut themselves off. So we were going to have several dispensers of a signature drink, galvanized tubs of beer, wine, soda, and water. We're going to have mason jars on the tables at the guests' seats... Idk it it's going to be a problem for some people to be drinking wine from a mason jar? Is it crazy that this is bothering me? Lol. And if people switch drinks... there's no new glass, nowhere to clean it or anything. But people usally stick with one type of drink, right?

3. We're putting several candles on the tables, several candles near the food and drinks for lighting, but the park itself has no lighting. There are electrical outlets. We can't hang anything in trees, can't nail anything. We can put sticks/posts into the ground to hang lanterns or whatever. We can use fire, it just has to be contained, hurricane lamps, mason jars, votives, etc.... but I looked up shepherds hooks and they're freaking expensive. Any suggestions?? We're not having a tent so there will be no lighting from a tent.

4. Who the hell sets up my place settings and centerpieces and everything like that?! I'm getting a day of coordinator... is this her job, or does she just oversee the set up and I'll need to hire people to do it?

Thanks so much in advance!

Posted on January 13, 2014 at 11:19 pm
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1. If you do buffet style set the table with silver ware and glasses. Put the plates on the buffet table. What type of table ware you use is up to you. They have plastic plates that are sturdy and look real. We are renting ours for our buffet meal. My cousin is rinsing them off and putting them back in the box for the rental company because that is whats required. 2. We are also having a bar. We plan to buy the plastic 9oz drink cups. The type you use is up to you but this is a cheap way on a tight budget. 3. Shepard hooks can be rented. For us we have been saving glass jars of all shapes and sizes for candles. What about luminaries they are usually inexpensive. What about string lights since you have outlets. 4. You usually have someone do the setup. A coordinator will od this if its in the contract that you expect that. Try torecruit a couple people (friends/family) to do it for you.
Posted on January 14, 2014 at 12:03 am
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 Kim hit all the points that I was going to say!

As for the plates-if you rent them look into how clean up should be as stated in the rental contract. I know this might not seem as nice, but think about maybe getting pretty paper plates? I wouldn't mind as a guest and it makes clean up a lot easier :) What is your geust list number? If it's small, maybe buying some plastic plates (that you can reuse laer) will work for you. 

2. I wouldn't worry too much about this one. If people want to change drinks they can put a little water in their cup, swirl, and dump...all that will work out just fine!

3. Im not much help with lighting...if there are electrical outlets, maybe a flood light? No clue...

4. Definitely ask/make sure you know what your DOC is responsible for. That is so important. Definitely recruit some family and friends to help! I dont' know about you where you will be getting ready or how much time you have to set up, but since I was in the bridal suite, I couldn't help much setting up so make sure people are helping you and they know exactly what they need to do :)

Good luck!

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 12:34 am
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You ladies are great. 

I want to rent shepherds hooks but there is nowhere around here that rents them. I may have to look into renting them from a website or figuring something else out for lighting. I didn't want a flood light as it seems very harsh and bright, but I might go with that if I can't figure anything out. 

 

How much does should we allot for set up? We're only allowed onto the venue about 2 hours before the ceremony starts. This also has me a little nervous :/

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 8:00 am
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See if they'll let you start setting up an extra hour or two before that...It always seems like there will be enough time to set up, but the more time the better! We were allowed to get to the venue 4 hours prior...but we did the first look and bridal party pictures two hours before the ceremony (because some people show up an hour early...so you basically have to wait and hide for the hour before lol) so we had two hours to set up and it just wasn't enough time. Maybe other brides have done it in that amount of time, but there were some things I forgot/missed because we just ran out of time. 

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 9:55 am
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Product Details this is a plastic plate they look real, you can get them at Sams or Costco.

 

For shepards hooks have you looked a the dollar store? You can usually order in bulk and have it sent to your local dollar store. Have you looked at classifieds on wedding websites? Craigslist? For lighting what about solar lights? the kind you can put in the garden.

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Posted on January 14, 2014 at 10:48 am
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All these ladies hit the nail on the head, and I agree with all of it! I will say since you are outdoors in a park you have a bit more flexibility about what is "expected", which I hate to say because really you should do what you want no matter what - but we all know people have certain ideas about weddings!

I think you can definitely use paper/plastic plates - it's a park with BBQ catering which says more of a picnic vibe to me.

I think you could make shepherds hooks if you have someone willing to twist the metal for you, buy black and spraypaint white or whatever color. (We ended up buying ours from Menards and they weren't that expensive, and then we painted white and they turned out fine). Otherwise definitely rent!

If you can't hang anything, can you put up tiki torches or flood lights, and string white lights on those, or whatever else you set up for lighting? If that makes sense - like outline your dance/eating area with flood lights in the four corners but then stretch lights around those to circle the whole thing? And I don't think your candle containers have to match, so start collecting random jars, bottles, etc like Kim said - I think that's a much neater look anyway!

And I think it's fine to have people use the same cup all night, but if you are worried about that, go with platic. Again, picnic feel so it's fine!

And I would give at least an hour of setup time, and assign people these tasks. If your DOC will do it and the fee is reasonable, great, but otherwise find family members willing to help and give them instructions.

Hope this helps!!

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 I've looked on Craigslist for shepherds hooks but nothing locally.

I can't do tiki torches because it's an open flame. Ive definitely considered the perimeter of string lights, but I need to find taller shepher's hooks that aren't super expensive. I saw somewhere that Hobby Lobby and Joann's carries them... there's 50% off coupons in the newpaper every week so that'll help me out :)

I'm going to look into those solar lights and figure out where they could be placed. I wonder if I could just attach it to the tall shepherds hooks?

I don't realllly want to do paper plates bc we're doing the ceremony in the evening. If it were during the afternoon, I could totally swing the picnic vibe but it's florida and even in November, it's going to be way too hot and way too bright for an afternoon wedding, IMO. I'll look into those plastic plates that actually look ok :)

Idk if I should do silverware at the buffet table, or at the seats? My caterer is basically like set up and go, I have to provide everything else. 

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 12:15 pm

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