So I am White and my FI is Indian (like Ghandi not Native American) well his family is used to having big wedding receptions and we both have big families. His parents want to invite all these people that neither FI or I know. Oh yeah and I have not been allowed to attend family functions until we got engaged (we dated for 6 years before getting engaged). So we have been trying to find a reasonable place that will either serve Indian food since FI wants some served or allow us to bring outside catering (who knew that would be so hard). So we find a place and FI cuts people from the guest list that he doesn't know or like I mean the list had so and so's sister as part of the guest list. Sorry but if you don't know this person's first name let alone last name they can't be that important. My parents are able to afford a huge wedding so they aren't adding to my list of family and my friends. So long story short his parents are pissed that he has cut from the list and that the site we found is to expensive (the expense comes from having a premium open bar and having overtime because they want it to go until midnight). Does anyone have any advise they have said I am making FI do all these changes and that I am brain washing him (who talks like that to their son about their FDIL). I need help they make me want to scream and just say F it all.