Invitation question

I'm not sure how to advise my friend on this one, so I'm putting the question out here:

What do you when the bride wants to have very formal wording on the invitations such as, "Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so invite you to the wedding of their daughter, AAA, to BBB, son of Mr. and Mrs. Such-and-such," but the groom's parents are divorced, don't get along at all, and the father remarried (so there's also a stepmother) but the mother did not?

Just put the names of the groom's parents separate, like Mr. Such-and-such and Ms. Mother-and-her-maiden name? Or include all three parents? Or bite her tongue and put something more general like, "Together with their families..."?
Posted on August 18, 2007 at 11:41 am
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MrsBabySalute
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We have received invitations like that before and this is what they did:

Mr. & Mrs. Bride's parents
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
BRIDE'S NAME
to
GROOM'S NAME
son of
Ms. Groom's Mom's Maiden Name
&
Mr. & Mrs. Groom's dad & stepmom
on Saturday, the first of August
Two thousand and seven...

Since groom's parents don't get along at all... if his mom doesn't want his stepmom's name on the invitation, then they can leave out the stepmom's name entirely. After all, the groom is not really her son, per se. So it will be just:

son of
Ms. Groom's Mom's Maiden Name
&
Mr. Groom's dad

I think "Together with their families" will be the best, but if the bride is adamant about the formal wording, the above should work.

Both of our families were the same way - our parents are divorced and don't get along. Both of our Dads remarried but moms didn't. So our invitation wording ended up being:

~ E Hoomau Maua Kealoha ~
May our love last forever

Please share the aloha spirit on the beautiful island of O?ahu with
MY NAME and DH'S NAME
as they marry in tropical paradise
on Thursday, the second of June
Two thousand and five
at half after five o?clock in the afternoon

Sheraton Moana Surfrider Resort
Grand Salon and Terrace
2365 Kalakaua Avenue
Honolulu, Hawai?i

That way nobody feels left out and nobody gets pissed! =)
Posted on August 18, 2007 at 12:15 pm
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I am in that exact situation. I plan on putting the parents of Bride's name and Groom's name. It might not be as formal as the example, but that's as close as I can get.
Posted on August 18, 2007 at 12:27 pm
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If the big worry is about appeasing the parents, maybe they should be in on the wording. I know my family was particular with how it was to be worded, because technically it's my family's guests since they are paying for the majority of it.
Posted on August 20, 2007 at 6:02 am

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