Invitation Question

I am originally from upstate NY and currently live in southwest FL, where I am getting married. Most of my family will probably make the trip for the wedding so we are going to have another separate party in NY a couple months after the actual wedding ceremony. Most of them can't afford a trip like that. Now here is my question: What do I send my NY family as far as an invitation? Do I make an entirely separate invite for them, or do I send the same invite with an additional reply enclosure? We are trying to keep our wedding day as close to 100 people as possible, and if by chance most of my family did come from NY, we would be way over budget, but at the same time, I don't want them to feel excluded.
Posted on May 13, 2014 at 10:34 pm
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 We have a lot of OOT guests as well, what FI and I came up with was an insert to their invitations that says we understand that it's a long drive but we'll keep you in our hearts if you decide not to come. Then on the back there is a suggestion for a donation to the red cross in lieu of a gift. The donation was my mother's idea, because we don't want people in my family that are a little sensitive to feel that they are only invited to send a gift but not show up. Good luck!

Posted on May 14, 2014 at 6:57 am
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Depending on who it is I would do what was suggested the original invite with an insert saying that you understand them not being able to make the trip and that you would love  them to come to a “celebration of your marriage” at a venue that is closer to home, and include an  RSVP for both.

You know your family and friends and if there are any that would either be offended not to receive an invite or would be willing to make the trip.

 

Posted on May 15, 2014 at 1:32 pm
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I agree with lorna, you must send them the the same invite with an additional reply enclosure, whether they come or not at least they won't feel excluded.

Posted on May 19, 2014 at 1:23 am
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