Inviting co-workers?

Just curious, are y'all inviting coworkers, bosses, etc? I

Posted on May 5, 2008 at 9:14 am
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d1rtymart1n1
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dont do it --- but that's just my personal opinion

they will understand and unless you guys spend time away from work and are really friends, i have never subscribed to the notion of inviting colleagues etc to something so personal.
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 9:20 am
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I've read that if you're going to invite co-workers, you have to invite everyone you work with... whether it's your team, your work-group or your entire office. Or, you can invite your boss by his/herself an no one else.

My DH and I made up a set of rules when we were deciding on co-workers: if we hang out with the co-worker outside of work on a somewhat regular basis, then they are considered a friend. If we don't then they are just a co-worker and then the above rule applies. We used this rule and it really simplified things for us.

Since I work in a small office and don't hang out with anyone outside of work, I didn't invite anyone from work, not even my bosses. No one seemed to mind and it saved me from having to invite 12 people and their guests. DH on the other hand works for a major airline and has a lot of friends through work. I had him sit down and make a list of who he'd like to invite. He had to separate them into A list and B list because there were so many. In the end it worked out alright.

I would take a look at the max number of guests you can have and decide if you want 20 of those spots to go to co-workers & their guests. With a group of only 10 co-workers, I really think you'd have to either invite all of them or none of them... just to be fair.

Good luck!
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 9:28 am
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If you're not close to any of them, don't do it. I'm just inviting my boss.
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 10:17 am
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I sort of followed ref's rule. I invited those I hang out with. I also invited my boss.
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 10:47 am
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My DH and I both work for the same company... and over the past 6 years or so, we've both met a LOT of people! And over that time, there are many people we've hung out with or that have gotten to know both of us. However, we had a small wedding, ~75 guests, and didn't invite any co-workers. Our guest list would have ballooned if we did. I think this was a source on contention to one person (who's wedding I was invited to and attended earlier in the year) but everyone else completely understood. And I am really happy we kept it small and intimate.
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 10:56 am
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Were just inviting who we want, its hard, but its also our day. We can't afford to invite everyone and their guest, especially with the limited seating we have...

- HMM :)
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 11:42 am
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I just invited one coworker. I don't really feel bad about it. Our office is small, and I don't really deal with anyone but her. Plus, she and her husband took me out for an engagement lunch when I announced the big news.
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 12:06 pm
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p.s. i invited about6 (and their +1) of my co-workers b/c they really are friends - we've gone out, crashed at each other's places, , gone on road trips - 2 of them are in my wedding actually... but the rest of those mo-fos - no!

i damn sure didnt invite my boss - and i dont really care how that looks - she's no friend of mine and i'm not one of hers - soooo i would not want her at one of the most symbolic days of my life kwim??

but i made it clear to my friends at work no wedding talk at work - i dont feel like lying to someone "oh it's a small affair and we're limiting our guest list" when the truth is the invite list is hovering at 250... i really want to say "i think yo're a pompous douchebag, and i dont want you there"... so, yeah, no wedding talk at work period ;)
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 12:28 pm
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"pompous douche bag" LMAO D1RTY. I work with hundreds of doctors and nurses in our 4 office practice. I only invited about 20 coworkers -no plus one unless they are married (some of them have sleazy bfs)lol
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 12:41 pm
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I work at a small recruiting company with 7 people and we're all really close so I'm inviting everyone except for the part time admin and the new person that is starting next week. If I worked in a bigger office, I would just invite the people I hang out with outside of work.
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 12:43 pm
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omg!! funnyy!! i think it's funny sometimes when people who are not friends, but you see them everyday at work - they think they're invited b/c we had a polite convo about the color printer not being loaded with paper or b/c we were on the same "teambuilding" core group!?!?!?

yeah - i almost uninvited my cousin - the green monster came out too fast and furious (oh it's a diamond - it looked fake - how was he able to afford a 3carat diamond??) grrrrd she's such a sn@tch! (woops did i say that out loud??)

but i guess i shouldnt have expected anything less so i just kicked her out of the bridal party! drama!
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 12:43 pm
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i am dealing with the same thing...i like most of my co-workers there are 17 of us...but there are 2 for sure i am not inviting and not sure about my 3 supervisors, one didn't invite me last year, and we don't see each other out of work but i have worked there for almost 7 years. Also, some of the girls too have sleezy husbands and i DONT want them there. Not sure what to do. Send an invite for 1?
Posted on May 5, 2008 at 5:37 pm

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