Is anyone having an h'orderves only wedding?

any reasonably priced caterers...?(berkeley/SF area)


how does it work with the cost?


is it even worth it?

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 1:56 pm
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I'm doing it for our wedding and we're having a full meal replacement. We've budgeted $80 AUD p/p but it's looking like it's only going to cost about $50 AUD p/p!!  lol I knew it'd be cheaper than the $100 p/p meal but I didn't know it'd be THAT more affordable! Soo...yeah. I think it's worth it!

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 2:00 pm
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I like the idea of hor'dourves only events.  We have them at corporate functions and well, I imagine will would be more elegantly executed at a wedding.  It's much easier for guests to mingle around rather than parking themselves at one table for the entire evening and you can try so many different dishes as smaller portions.  And of course, it's less expensive. 

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 2:12 pm
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I really liked this idea at first, but then when I brought it up to a few people, they said guest would be expecting to be fed and would be disappoined, but I haven't made a decision yet.  I think if the hor;douvres are delicious and people are satisfied, I think it will be fine.  And if it's a significant enough price difference, I would go for it!

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 2:18 pm
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TinaMB: the idea between a full meal-replacement is that you have just as much food (weight wise) per person as would be at a full sit-down meal only you have so many more options in tiny packages. So if people are expecting to be fed, they won't neccessarily be any more hungry at a hor-dourves only reception. If it's not a full meal-replacement, putting "cocktail reception" on the invitation lets people know ahead of time that there won't be a full meal.

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 2:22 pm
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to me, this is only acceptable if your wedding is at a "non-meal" time of day/nite.

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 3:20 pm
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We are doing a hor-dourves reception. It will be heavy hor-dourves. I think it's elegant and since my husband is a chef who has catered many events I have no fear anyone will go away hungry.  I don't know what your site rules are but if they'll let you bring in things on your own you can save lots of money by doing your own shrimp bowl, smoked salmon, cheese trays.   We are doing a 50-50 thing where we are doing about half the food and the caterer is serving it all and doing all the clean up.


Don't worry about folks going away hungry if you plan correctly. Feel free to PM me if you want. My dh will give you lots of tips on food and pricing.


 

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 3:21 pm
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We are doing an hor'dourves reception...more affordable, easier to plan etc.  Plus, I LOVE finger foods!

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 4:02 pm
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ditto jackieg


 

Posted on April 27, 2009 at 4:03 pm
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I am also thinking about only serving heavy h'orderves instead of a full dinner, but I am wondering if it will feel akward having tables and seating with no formal meal? Does anyone know how seating works with an h'orderves only reception? Thanks!

Posted on August 13, 2010 at 8:24 am
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we are!  heavy h'ordourves that is, a handful should fill everyone up and keep them interested!  we're looking at $60 a head at a base rate.

Posted on August 13, 2010 at 8:29 am
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We had a heavy hors d'oeuvres reception.  It didn't start until 8:00 PM, but we still made sure there was enough food so people could make a meal of it if they wanted.  And we had about 80 chairs for about 60 people.  That way, a couple wouldn't come in late to find only single seats available.


We didn't actually have a caterer, but we hired a couple of friends to buy the food from BJ's, prepare it, serve it, and clean up.  The food cost less than $300, and we paid our friends $500, so it was a bit over $13 per person.

Posted on August 16, 2010 at 8:30 pm
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Most people would be put off by that if it's say a dinner time reception.

Posted on August 16, 2010 at 8:52 pm
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I'm also doing a cocktail and hors d'ouevres reception! We've told our guests through word-of-mouth of the style of the reception, and they are excited! We are the first of our friends to do this, so hopefully we live up to their expectations! We are doing passed hors d'oevres and several stations. This is at 7pm, which is around dinner time, but the coordinator has told me that there will be enough food for everyone. Plus, most of our guests will be busy on the dance floor.

Posted on August 16, 2010 at 11:48 pm
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We're just having some hors d'oeuvres before the dinner. The one problem with doing it as a replacement meal is that there are always some people who will complain that they didn't get any / enough. If you wanted, you could actually DIY them fairly easily as well.

Posted on August 17, 2010 at 12:19 am
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I was thinking about doing the same and if you have enough food I think you will be fine! People should be there to celebrate with you so it shouldn't be just all about the food...right?!?!
Posted on August 17, 2010 at 2:33 am
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Ours is an h'orderves type reception.  It's at 2:00 in the afternoon and will be english tea style, sandwhiches, savories, veggie, fruit, cheese platters, etc.

Posted on August 17, 2010 at 2:47 am
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I agree with other posters - its perfectly fine to have appetizer only receptions, but you need to tell your guests - like putting cocktail reception on the invite vs. dinner reception.  otherwise, you might have some guests wondering when the main meal is coming out and might not eat many appetizers thinking that.

Posted on August 17, 2010 at 2:49 am
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 We are also planning to do a cocktail reception. We are on a very tight budget and want to be able to invite more friends/family to celebrate our evening. We were very concerned about the cost of dinner and have opted to do h'orderves type reception also. We are thinking about having the reception start around 7 and ending at 10 because we don't want to run into dinner time too much. Do you think this is enough time for a reception? We have to be out of our facility, including taking down everything by 11pm.

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