Is cash a good gift for bridal shower?

I am a bridesmaid along with my friend for our friend's wedding soon. So there will be only 2 bridesmaid. The bride to be does not want a bridal shower and she will does not have a registry. Therefore the other bridesmaid and I decided to do a mini bridal shower with the 3 of us by going to an upscale restaurant and having high afternoon tea. There we will eat and give her gifts. The other bridesmaid said she will give the bride $500 cash. She will not give anything on the wedding day though. I ordered a personalized frame with the groom and brides names and their wedding date and a wedding hanger that says "Mrs. ---"

I also plan on getting her lingerie from VS to make it more fun. Then we will go out for facials and massages as a bachelorette thing.

I feel like my gift is so small compared to my friend who plan on giving her cash. Are my gifts tacky? Is cash a better option? I planned on giving her money on her wedding day.

Posted on December 25, 2013 at 9:55 pm
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Posted on December 26, 2013 at 9:50 am
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 your gifts sound nice.  not everyone can afford to spend $500 on a wedding present.  in fact, most people don't spend that kind of money on a wedding present.  in south carolina you are lucky if someone spent $100, but $50 is the most common amount.  consider your friend's income and expenses.  they may just have more money to "play" with and can afford to spend that much.  it doesn't mean that you have to spend that much to love the bride equally.  before you found out about the $500 your friend was giving, did you feel your gift was good or that it lacked a little something?  if you thought it was good, then stick to it.  if you thought it lacked a little something, then maybe  give some cash or a gift card, but since you have other gifts the amount doesn't need to be huge.  you put a lot of thought behind your gifts and that is what the bride will remember.  cash is nice, but the bride could easily forget who gave her cash and how much they gave.  but  every time she looks at the frame she will think of you.

Posted on December 26, 2013 at 2:26 pm
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Cash is always nice but for a bridal shower gifts with thought for me are better. I think she will love your gifts. Maybe the other bridesmaid should give her a lesser amt at the bridal shower and the bigger portion at the wedding. As a bride thats what I would prefer. its sometimes hard to remember who gave you something earlier and when there is nothing from them at the wedding it can cause you to wonder why.
Posted on December 27, 2013 at 11:59 am
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 Everyone's gifts are different. Since she isn't registetring and not having any parties, cash is fine and whatever you want to give her is fine. Maybe that other BM can easily afford to give the bride $500. If that was me, I know I wouldn't be able to fork over that much money as a gift. It's a nice gesture but it's probably because the bride isn't doing anything and the BM feels a little obligated and cash makes things easier at times right?

 

You get someone what you can and if it's from the heart then it can never be tacky or too small.

Posted on December 27, 2013 at 12:13 pm
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 Your gift ideas are great! Ditto the other ladies, some people can afford such gifts some (most) cannot. Don't feel bad to compare, the personal touxhes are great! Have fun at tea and pampering!!

Posted on December 27, 2013 at 1:07 pm
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 your gifts are awesome! she will feel great and that will have a lasting feeling than 5bills.

Posted on December 31, 2013 at 10:44 am

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