Is your FI/DH romantic?

Is your FI/DH romantic?

My answer:
Not really. He's really sweet and considerate, but not what you would call "romantic" like in the movies.
Posted on May 24, 2007 at 4:17 pm
johnandjanet
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TheChicBride
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Not really. He used to be, but now we have a child who is 3. Therefore, we don't have a lot of time for romance.
Posted on May 24, 2007 at 4:18 pm
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My guy can be romantic, in a sweep-me-off-my-feet kind of way...for example booking a suprise weekend away in a B&B for us and arranging wine tasting and spa treatments.

But what I appreciate more is that he is sweet to me on a daily basis...making the morning coffee and bringing it to me just how I like it. Text messaging that he loves me and is thinking of me. Going out and putting gas in my car so I don't have to rush in the morning. Stuff like that. He is a very giving and considerate person.
Posted on May 24, 2007 at 5:28 pm
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Joe and I are not the most romantic people in the world. =) I must say that he treats me very well on a daily basis and I'm very thankful for his kindness. He does every-day things like today he came to my work and we had lunch together, and then took a walk together after lunch. =)
Posted on May 24, 2007 at 6:39 pm
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Not so much. . . I think he can be capable of it but he doesn't bother. Also, he is very busy. I think a lot of times I'm the one who plans things and he rather I be content with the plans and let me plan it rather than doing it himself and have me be disappointed. But a girl likes to be surprised sometimes!

But like Margaret said about Joe, my DH treats me well on a daily basis.
Posted on May 25, 2007 at 4:54 am
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He's never really been a "romantic" guy the way you see in the movies. But he's very sweet and takes very good care of me. I will say, though, that the proposal was a big surprise and very romantic. So I guess he is when it counts =)
Posted on May 25, 2007 at 6:20 am
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My fi sounds a lot like loridecters. I've dated a lot of over the top romantics and have found I am most compatible with someone like my fi.

We all sound like a lucky group of ladies.
Posted on May 25, 2007 at 8:46 am
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I've never dated a "romantic" guy before and my DH is no exception. Maybe I'm not the typical romantic kind of person, I feel that big gestures are not necessary to have a great relationship and a great marriage. Like the pp's said, it's the little things that count. Then again, I wouldn't mind getting swept off my feet every once in awhile just for kicks. ;)
Posted on May 25, 2007 at 12:07 pm
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Yes. Very. But not over the top. Just little things he does once in a while make me appreciate him and fall in love just a little more ! ex: every night before we fall asleep, he thanks me for anything nice i did for him during the day. then i do the same. we've made it a daily habit. or he'll call me out of the blue at work just to say he loves me :)

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 10:45 am
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awww, WM that is sooo cute!!! 


My FI is not romantic.  But he's sweet and considerate and also treats me good on a daily basis.  But I'm happy to know that I'm not the only one without a romantic FI! 

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 10:50 am
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i think being sweet and considerate is very romantic betsi!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 10:52 am
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I agree that doing the small and considerate things every day make it worth while. DH was over-the-top romantic at times when we were first dating. Or as he likes to put it, when he was trying to "woo" me. He took me on a couple of surprise getaway weekends and sent me flowers at work to congratulate me on a new job. As the years went by, and we had less money, he did it less and less. I was actually fine with it, and still am. He always opens doors for me and kills all the spiders in the house. ;-)


I had to have a talk with him when he completely ignored our anniversary a few years ago. He was unemployed and thought it was better to do nothing because he couldn't afford a weekend getaway like he'd done in previous years. I was so angry with him for a complete lack of acknowledgement, no card, not even a kiss and a "happy anniversary babe." Ooooh, I was so mad! Now he doesn't forget and knows that I'm completely thrilled with a nice home-cooked dinner and some hard-core cuddling. ;-)

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 11:08 am
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Noooooo, mine is not really romantic at all in the traditional way. I wish he were more so. But like you all have said before, he treats me well every day and he listens to me. He tries but I don't think he's wired to be romantic with flowers, gifts, surprises. I too am glad to see I'm not the only one.;-)

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 11:10 am
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LOL, I'm also glad to see that I'm not alone with having a non-romantic Fi!  I admit that there are times that I wish he'd put more 'effort' out & make secret getaway plans & all the other sweet stuff, but I wouldn't trade...or change him for the world.  He is who he is, & we mesh well together because he always has my best interest at heart.  When he does the simple things like, text that he loves or was thinking of me, or reaches out to hold my hand, it melts my heart.  After 4 years plus of being together, Ive learned that he's the way he is...I even tried to flip the script & set up a couples massage, rub his feet, cook him dinner, etc..those things he really could care less about lol.  But as long as he has me near him is what matters most, so that makes me happy.

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 11:18 am
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fh is thoughtful, very considerate, but i dont know if that qualifies him as a romantic in the cary-grant-george-clooney-swept off my feet way...


he sends me text mssges everyday telling me he loves me - or tells me he cant wait til i'm fat and preggo with his "big-headed babies"...  charming? no... real? yes


i'm not the mushy-romantic type of girl either - so it works for us...


what i find most endearing of late??  usually i lay my head on his shoulders or his chest when we cuddle - but a couple times, he likes to lay on my tummy and have me hold him...nothing said, just peace, quiet and love...  ssshhh - dont tell anyone - they'll revoke his "man-card"


 

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 11:24 am
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well then he can put it in his murse!!


Mare...nothing says romance like a new Louie!!!


i'll concur...it's the little things....every morning before he leaves for work, while i'm still laying in bed...he gives me gentle little kisses all over my face and tells me he loves me...oh, and he also unscrews the lids from water bottles for me...we keep our water in the garage fridge...and when he brings me one, he opens it for me....

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 11:46 am
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Oh no haha. He is, but somehow I always find out :( He is not good at surprises and I guess well.


He does do little sweet things though. He says he is going to a meeting , but comes home with a bundle of flowers. Or he will leave me sweet love notes. aw I love FI

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 12:02 pm
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YES!!!  Not just romantic, but thoughtful and old-fashioned.  Thats why I fell in love with him- he knows how to treat a women haha and I am very lucky!  Im actually the opposite so I feel bad sometimes, it makes me put effort in too, he deserves it.  Being young, and in this new generation of how men treat women, etc- it was hard not to get the 'typical' douche bag haha- so I knew he was a keeper :)


- HMM :)

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 12:05 pm
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TOTALLY!!!!  i'm sure we all know or have heard of the db-type HMM talks about! hahaha


all i know is he puts up with my ass - when im being a major pain - which i know i can be =)

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 12:10 pm
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Mine tries to be but I usually spoil all the fun by finding out. haha I'm just so curious and my friend always tells to cut it out but I just can't! :(  we both get so exited about surprising each other with something that we spoil the surprise.  WE are like 5 year old children at x-mas!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 12:22 pm
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Ohhhhh absoutely not.  Like many of you, mine is also "considerate" and takes very good care of me. I brought my daughter into this relationship when she was 9 (she will be 15 in 2 weeks) and he has always looked at her like she was his own.  Her biological dad is a moron and she has expressed that she would like him to adopt her after we are married.  We'll see.


On the other hand, I think he may suffer from some type of personality disorder haha.  I swear he can be more moody than a roomful of women with the most SEVERE cases of PMS.

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 12:29 pm
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