How are yall addressing the issue of finances? Are you going 50/50? Using separate accounts? Joint accounts? How do you address the bills that were once individual but are now apart of the household expenses?
For example: I would like to have a joint checking and savings account. In addition, I thinkwe should also then have individual savings and/or MADD money accounts for each of us. FI thinks it will work if we just do the "separate" thing and then the both of us just contribute a certain amount of money each month to take care of the bills. I think the majority of the money should go into the joint accounts and we can take out what we need to put in our separate accounts -- not the other way around. What is someone decided not to contribute that month. My mother divorced my dad after 35 years because for some strange reason she started thinking that HE was hiding money from her (which he wasn't). So come to find out, she started separating all her money from him thinking he was somehow "saving up" for some reason (like another woman) unbeknownst to her. Romance without Finance ain't s**t but a damn nuisance.
I just think that when you have things separated that you leave too much room for assumptions. If you love and trust one another then you should be able to trust each other when it comes to something HUGE like finances. If you don't trust your spouse when it comes to money, then why in the world would you want to marry them? Seems ass backwards to me.