Jr. Bridesmaids/Flower girls?

I have two younger, close female cousins who will be 11 and 13 (almost 14) by the time of my wedding. They seem too old to be flower girls. Did anyone else run into this situation? I'm not really sure what the role of junior bridesmaids would be. I'm not sure if they would be upset at being flower girls if maybe we could jazz up the role a little bit...? I have a long time to think about it, but always find help from you all.
Posted on August 13, 2007 at 6:49 am
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abattyref
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I'd have to agree that 11 and 13 is too old to be flower girls. Perhaps let them help out with a little bit of the planning (whatever you believe they could handle) and I'd make sure they're invited to the bridal shower, as long as it's PG. Since a flower girl is really just there to drop petals on the ground and look cute, the Jr Bridesmaids can actually help out.

First, I'd talk to these two cousins and see how they feel about helping out and being more than just flower girls. Even they might agree that they're too old to be flower girls.

Good luck.
Posted on August 13, 2007 at 8:59 am
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We had the same thing with my fiance's nieces. We wanted to include them but being 9 and 11 decided they are too old for flower girl status and they are JR. bridesmaids. I don't know what that means exaclty, just mini versions of my real bridesmaids? I'll probably have them help with things they can and I'm sure they will get a kick out of wearing dresses that look just like the older girls :-)
Posted on August 13, 2007 at 10:33 am
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I guess my issue is that it would probably stress me out to have them "help" with the getting ready stuff. They're very sweet girls, but a little on the unpredictable side and I would like a very calm beginning to the day. Part of me says they can help pass out programs or something and also walk down the aisle to then sit with their parents.
Posted on August 13, 2007 at 12:53 pm
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I like you're compromise idea. It would still work to call them Jr. Bridesmaids, but they wouldn't have "bridesmaid status" as it were. So they wouldn't be getting ready with you, etc. They could march down the aisle in between the parents and before the bridesmaids.
Posted on August 13, 2007 at 2:09 pm
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When I was married the first time around (in 1997) I had my eldest female cousin (5 years older than me) as a BM and her younger sister and my youngest cousin (10 years younger than me and 12 at the time) as a Junior bridesmaid. Her gown was a modified/age appropriate version of the bridesmaids, She carried a bouquet like the BMs but she wore a floral wreath on her head like the flower girl had (who was 6 years old). We also had a Junior Groomsman (my exhusband's nephew) who was 11 and escorted our Junior Bridesmaid in the ceremony recessional.

At the reception she helped guide guests to sign the guestbook and find the escort cards. She was beyong thrilled to do it all...especially getting to wear a fancy dress like the older BMs. She also helped keep the flowergirl and ring bearer inline during the ceremony, portraits and reception introductions. I also had other younger cousins (age 15 and 16) hand out programs and favors to guests.
Posted on August 13, 2007 at 6:54 pm
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I agree, 11 and 13 seem a little old to be flower girls. I think you could call them "Junior bridesmaids" and have them carry pomanders instead of bouquets?
Posted on August 14, 2007 at 9:40 am

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