I know that when I was planning my second marriage I was concerned about what some people might think. My first wedding was small and fast and I really wanted to go all out this time (and I did) but was worried that people might think it was wrong and that we should elope and not bring as much attention to it. I say FORGET THEM!!! This may not have been my first marriage but it was my FIRST marriage to DH and we were doing it right.
I have absolutely no regrets about how we did it and anyone that pre judged the situation quickly changed there minds.
It is YOUR day and has to be done the way YOU want.