just joined this group and I have a question....

hi, so I just discovered this group and I actually do have a question. Sorry if it's been talked about before, I didn't go through all the posts.


Anyway....I am really self conscious and awkward when I'm on top. FI can never orgasm unless he's in control or I'm giving him oral. So it makes me feel like I'm not good on top and I can't satisfy him. So I've been kind of avoiding the position and now he feels like I'm getting lazy in bed and making him do all the work. I tried earlier because I don't want him to feel that way and he kept grabbing my hips to try to make me move faster but I just can't! It's a lot harder to maneuver a vagina than a penis I think. I think of a screwdriver and a screw - you put the screwdriver into the screw not the screw onto the screwdriver because it's easier that way, lol. So, now that I've rambled....any tips???

Posted on July 1, 2012 at 2:41 pm
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have you tried reverse cowgirl? I know that sometimes its a bit easier....to bounce faster LOL

Posted on July 1, 2012 at 3:12 pm
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I second the reverse cowgirl position. Maybe also try doggie style where he sits on his legs ( you know with bent knees). This way you can both be in control ;)
Posted on July 1, 2012 at 6:01 pm
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Reverse cowgirl is easier but it feels like we don't connect that much and it's hard to tell if it's doing anything for him since I can't see his facial expressions - only the toe curling lol. We do like doggie style. 

Posted on July 2, 2012 at 10:16 am
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It totally is easier for them to move theirs than it is for us to move ours! Unfair, huh!? lol. I second all of the other suggestions. I know somebody mentioned this in another post (don't remember the topic though) about being on top and instead of bouncing, get a lil different angle and slide more forward and backward. That's exactly what I do, and it works for both of us!

Posted on July 2, 2012 at 11:07 am
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thanks uhlease! I'll try that. yes it is totally unfair! haha

Posted on July 2, 2012 at 12:18 pm
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yes unfair!!


I slide too ...but it's always less good for me when I have to work...I have to concentrate and that's too difficult!!


ahahah

Posted on July 5, 2012 at 2:07 am
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..."I have to concentrate and that's too difficult!!" -Elocha, that made me laugh! And I agree with the other ladies! Also,TRY everything, try different positions, experiment!! Lol

Posted on July 5, 2012 at 2:28 am
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ahahah yes that's pretty funny... but true!


You don't find it difficult girls to focus and enjoy/let go at the same time?


Sliding is also a good solution ;)

Posted on July 5, 2012 at 3:56 am
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I think you should tell him why you stopped being on top so that he understands and maybe he can share what he likes about when youre on top so you can do more of that.


I was going to suggest the same thing, I dont bounce I get tired, I lean forward onto his chest and kind of slide up and down.  Sometimes I do try to sit on my feet and bounce, when I do that I hold his hands so that will keep him from trying to make you go faster and it gives you a little support to bounce.

Posted on July 7, 2012 at 8:55 am
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I have the same problem with speed with my FI I have realized that if I take total control like leaning over and holding his hands down over his head not letting him move them at all. Something about him feeling completely dominated makes him go crazy, but dont get me wrong he sometime rolls me over and takes control for the last little bit. 

Posted on August 30, 2012 at 3:09 pm

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