Just sad...

I know, I know we've just started TTC and it's going to take some time to get pregnant, but I just got this overwhelming feeling of sadness this morning over not being pregnant. We were going to start trying immediately after the wedding but had to delay to make sure we were set financially (as in, both careers going well, a significant amount of money in savings, money set aside of buying baby stuff and paying hospital bills).


Now everyone around me is pregnant, I swear. My cousin just told me about her pregnancy this morning and they just started trying a month ago! Several friends pregnant and about 100 acquaintences, and suddenly soo many people I know are pregnant accidentally, no trying, some not even in relationships. And I mean, duh, Taylor, of course these people aren't getting knocked up just to rub their uteruses in your face, but still - gah, I hate this feeling!


I spend most of my spare time with one of my best friends who has two children, 15 months and 5 months and they're adorable. I love it, but at the same time, it's soo hard.


Of course, just thinking these thoughts outloud make me feel like a real butthead because I know there are so many women out there who've been trying for months, years, for children, and their frustration and sadness thousands of times harder than mine. I don't mean to belittle anyone else's experiences, but I'm just here at work, feeling like crying. Ugh. Guess I'll blame PMS for this one. Thanks for listening ladies!

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 5:35 am
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WMforever
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i know what you mean. its suddenly raining babies around me too and i'm not partaking! :(  the time will come for us. just you wait!

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 7:03 am
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I know how you feel ladies.  I often feel horrible for being jealous of my friends who have ALL gotten pregnant.  None...and I mean NONE of my friends that have gotten pregnant in the past year have been married, they all have crappy jobs (some are still in finishing up grad school/second degrees), most of them don't own their own homes or have any type of savings, etc etc.  Basically they have NONE of the things you're "supposed" to have before you have children, yet DH and I have all of that and we aren't having kids.


I know I'm supposed to be the bigger person and look past all that, but sometimes it's hard.


 

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 7:46 am
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right there with ya....seems like everyone around me just so easily, even accidentally, gets pregnant like it's nothing. My husband and I waited to make everything perfect and it's so frustrating trying so hard to be disappointed every month. It's frustrating! I cant figure out the trick how not to let it get me down....

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 8:15 am
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I am in the same boat...every person I seem to have ever met is having babies right now without even trying. I just got the word today from the doc that its negative blood.  my husband and I have wanted children for a long time and while we havent been married long, we have prepared our lives very carefully to be able to do this.  But, on the positive side, we will all get there I'm sure, it just takes its time...Too bad we cant just wave a wand :)

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 10:26 am
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I've been there! Trying to conceive it an emotional roller coaster. It really is tough! It took me 13 months and two reproductive endocrinologists to get pregnant. Try to keep your head up!

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 10:42 am
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Wow! Perfect timing for me to join this group, and find this post. My best friend just called me 30 minutes ago to tell me she is prego with her 3rd. I really have the baby fever!

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 10:56 am
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I'm the same way...now I have to have surgery on the 13th...and everyone I know seems to be pregnant....it's not as easy as all those 16yr olds on MTV lead us to believe....
Posted on October 28, 2009 at 11:59 am
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lmao at your comment jackie!

Posted on October 28, 2009 at 2:37 pm
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I love all of the feedback ladies! I'm glad to know the "baby fever" is something that others are dealing with. Don't get me wrong, I'm incredibly happy for my loved ones who are experiencing the joys of pregnancy and I thank God I'm not currently experiencing any infertility issues like a couple of my close friends - my heart literally breaks for them - but you just get that pang with every announcement. You wonder, when will it be my turn? But then I remind myself that those newly pregnant friends of mine likely thought the same thing when their family and friends were getting pregnant. We'll get there together - I'll be happy to hear when so many of my PW friends find themselves expecting, even if it takes a while for it to be my turn.


Jackie, your comment killed me, lol! I know a girl who claims to have gotten pregnant with all four of her kids while using two kinds of birth control and then so many couples trying to make a baby are struggling. When I was 17 - yes, 17 - my mom had the "sex talk" with me. She tried telling me that if I laid next to my boyfriend on the couch to watch a movie I might have "special feelings" that would result in a baby. Why can't I just have some "special feelings" and make that magic happen now? Ha!

Posted on October 29, 2009 at 5:41 am
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ha ha ha....thanks for the chuckle erindira "special feelings...."


If only it were that easy, eah?

Posted on October 29, 2009 at 5:52 am
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Wow erindira, you really got shorted on the 'sex talk'!  My mom was on the opposite end of the spectrum.  I pretty much got a 'sex talk' from my mom EVERY time we were alone from age 11 to 18.  So I got about 857 million 'sex talks'.  And there were no words like "special feelings", although, thank goodness, she did stop short of the banana/condom example!  I think it was because all she got from her mom was "don't do bad things with boys".

Posted on October 29, 2009 at 8:20 am

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