Kids or No Kids.. that is the question :)

Are you having kids attend your reception if so.. where your family members/friends with kids offended?


We are not planning on having kids attend our wedding and I know it's a pretty touchy subject. I've been to a ton of weddings where kids were running around like crazy people and the parents never had a good time. I just want our wedding to be a "Date night" .. the night off from the kids


What are you ladies doing?/ did


p.s it's 50/per child at our venue -- insane!!!

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:45 pm
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We will be having kids. FI and I have a kid and all of our siblings have kids so it's not really an option. Only our immediate family will have kids there though. However, there is a large room at my venue that is usually given to the men as a grooms sweet, so we will be setting that room up as a kid zone! There will be tv's and movies, games, coloring stuff, random toys, and most importantly we will be hiring BABYSITTERS!!!

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:50 pm
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We are having kids.  They are a part of our family too, and I could not imagine not having them there, we are having about 13 kids (that we know off the top will defnitely be there, our kids, and kids of the wedding party), and we will not exclude other children if the situation presents itself.  We are having a formal wedding, but I still would not exclude kids, they will have their own tables elegantly decorated but still kid friendly, and their own favors.  A little after dessert is served and the partying starts, the kids will be going back to the hotel with FIs older Aunts and they will supervise a sleepover.


Kids cry, they run, they play, that's what they do.  Our wedding is not so super duper serious, that if a child cries it would ruin my whole day, I have kids, so I am use to it, and I firmly believe that if a child does cry or is having a bad day at my wedding, I'm confident their parents will know to excuse themselves to calm the child down.

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:54 pm
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No Kids.

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:55 pm
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Wow that sounds awesome. I did consider having one of the hotel suites be a kids room but it would be in the resort and they would have to leave the pavillion (wedding space) take the elevators to check up on their kids... it's so much work! Plus you know how parents are with babysitters these days

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:55 pm
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This is a very touchy subject and WOW $50 a child?!?! That's just insane! I mean are they planning on these kids burning the place down? Geez! Well this is what we're doing..


We're getting married in a vintage venue that is set up like a rustic romantic barn..it's soooo beautiful! I fell in love with it. We have a little boy and several of my family members have children. I want all of them to feel welcome at our wedding and reception. We will be hiring sitters for the children because it is required in our contract. Which is good because these are people that are getting paid so they don't feel like they are missing out on anything. I was nervous about having kids there too because I didn't want people to miss out on enjoying themselves if they did bring their kids so we're putting on our website that bringing their kids is optional to them.

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:58 pm
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We had no kids.  We had an intimate, DW and it wouldn't have been appropriate.  Our venue also had stipulations on having alcohol at the reception with children (not sure, it was weird).  I'm not a huge fan of kids at weddings unless they are family. 


I think that in each situation, it's best that the family/close friends and bride and groom are all taken into account before such a decision is made as a wedding impacts a lot of people.

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Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:00 pm
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We aren't having kids, and I haven't heard any backlash from it yet.


The parents of the kids in the bridal party are trying to send them home so that they can have a date night! :-)

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:02 pm
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Yeah the price is a little high and it's only 60/ per adult and I know that none of the children will eat the food that is given to them. This isn't a catering company it's the resort catering staff.


I have considered inviting my bridal party children to the event but my brother and sister-in-laws would rather them stay at the hotel room with their nanny. This is a great opportunity for the cousins to be together in the hotel room ( one brother is from NJ and the other is here from CO)


It's a touchy subject and if I had children I am sure my opinion would stay the same.


 

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:08 pm
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A very touchy subject - but in my situation we are on the extreme end of things. Both families combined we had a total of 60 kids. I KNOW - CRAZY!!!


We broke it down finacially and decided that we will not invite children to our wedding.


Even my own sister was understanding and said they would make arrangments for them at the hotel.


I think you have to make the decision based on how YOU want your day and not based off how offended people will get. They will get offended over every little thing you do anyways.

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:14 pm
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This is very true, it's just one day .... can't people just get a babysitter and not complain about it?

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Posted on February 18, 2011 at 3:18 pm
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Posted on February 18, 2011 at 4:07 pm
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We are having kids, but we have explained to parents of kids under 4 that they are not having they own sits. I'm not paying 35 for a child that wouldn't finish even half of their plate.  

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 4:15 pm
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I am a mama so I love the kids LOL! Children bring so much joy, peace, and laughter to my life that I could not do without them. I too am having someone pick them up come late party time because kids can only handle so much festivities.

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 4:19 pm
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No!
Posted on February 18, 2011 at 5:31 pm
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Posted on February 18, 2011 at 5:38 pm
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We are only having the 3 kids in the wedding and the ones from out of state that have to spend the nite, which from what I hear could be none, if they show the total will be 6. I think $50 a head for kids is crazy. The last 2 weddings we were at there were kids crying and screaming through the ceremony, no the parents didnt take them away, just let them do it, at the reception all they did was drink and let them run around and bother people, thats when we said NO KIDS!

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 10:42 pm
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No kids with exception of my daughter, 2 FGs, 1 RB (all family) and my daughter's bestest friend :-) (5 total)

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 1:08 am
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We didn't and not 1 person cared at all! Even my family flew from out of town who have small children were surprised I was worried about it.  To my family, a wedding is not a place for children. Personally, I didn't care too much but we had our wedding at botanic gardens and we didn't want them running around picking the greenery. Also, it's not contained, one second of not paying attention and they could run into the parking lot or street.


I don't know why people care, as if they can't go anywhere without their kids. People should look at it as a date night and enjoy themselves and if they don't like it they can keep their opinions quiet and decline the invite!

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 1:16 am
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