Kids or No Kids.. that is the question :)

Are you having kids attend your reception if so.. where your family members/friends with kids offended?


We are not planning on having kids attend our wedding and I know it's a pretty touchy subject. I've been to a ton of weddings where kids were running around like crazy people and the parents never had a good time. I just want our wedding to be a "Date night" .. the night off from the kids


What are you ladies doing?/ did


p.s it's 50/per child at our venue -- insane!!!

Posted on February 18, 2011 at 2:45 pm
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We are allowing kids at ours, otherwise some people wouldn't be able to come. All FI's family lives in Ontario and he has a few cousins with kids and if they weren't invited none of them would make the trip out here. So for us it'll be fine to allow kids.

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 1:54 am
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We are not having children at our wedding. I don't believe it's the place for children.  It's an expensive event and I think the adults need adult time and sorry to say, but who wants to hear kids crying and screaming and what if a child gets stepped on or hurt while the adults are dancing. I don't think you or your guests should have to worry about that stuff at your wedding. JMO

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 1:58 am
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we only having family kids like 10 or so

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 3:54 am
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I really wanted kids but to be honest, if we would, there would be more kids than adults if we did it this way.  We opted not to.  The only kids are my nephew as ring bearer and my little flower girl!

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 3:55 am
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None apart from my FSILs baby who will be nine months old...and thats only if she decides she wants to bring him. I'm definately in the contingent who think its not really a place for kids esp when it gets a bit rowdy late at night. Its a long day for an adult let alone a three year old..

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 4:00 am
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We invited kids and everything went fine. We had like 6 or 7 kids and 100 adults. Our venue didn't charge that much per kid, either. it really is your call. Just be clear when you address your invites.
Posted on February 19, 2011 at 5:01 am
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We are having kids (we have two of our own).  Our rule is no kids under 5 with the exception of immediate family.  We are going to hire a family friend's daughter to babysit back at the hotel.  We plan on getting popcorn, games, movies, etc for the kids to do at the hotel.

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 5:17 am
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We only had immediate family children invited- such as nieces/nephews and 1st cousins only.  The invites were addressed specifically to either Mr. and Mrs. or Mr, & Family.  Also on the RSVP card it states how many seats were reserved in their name so it was clear cut about how many people were invited

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 5:18 am
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Out of 190 we had 13 kids (age 13 and under).  They were $50 each.   Don't except for anyone under 20years old to cover thier plate.  This sounds harsh but if it does come down to the issue of money, having no kids will cost you less.  We had the same debate and ended up inviting only 1st cousins. 
DH side has 3-5 kids in each family and we accedently wrote on the save the date all of the kids names. (My mother in law gave me the list, I didn't check it and sent them out)  We ended up omitting the kids names on the invitation and wrote every single rsvp with a yes/no box next to each name to make sure the kids wouldn't come.  That worked.  It was also better for them because they got to enjoy a party without the kids.


So depends on the number of kids you are going to have and how close they are to you.  If its only a few and everyone will be watching them, they will be fine.  If not they will take over the party.

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 6:03 am
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No kids for us including in the wedding party. We want it to be Date Night. A little backlash so far but nothing serious. Yet. ;)

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 7:47 am
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no kids. no exceptions. 

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 8:12 am
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No kids allowed. That was something we agreed on. I know most of our friends with little kids would understand and either have them with a sitter, or not go. We have a couple of friends who might do the "Could X come with us?" in which we are prepared to say "Sorry. We are making this an adults only wedding, but we would love it if you and your husband could come".


 


Since people would know in advance what the time and date is, I would hope that they can make plans.

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 8:30 am
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We chose to have kids, and I'm glad we did.  Kids are a part of both of our families and it just wouldn't have felt right to not have ALL of our families there!  :)  In light of that we had 2 nieces and a nephew (ages 6, 1.5, and not quite 1), 2 2nd cousins (ages 4 and 9), 3 random kids of friends (ages 2, 5, and ~8).  Without them there, we wouldn't have gotten some amazing pictures!


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We had buffet for our catering though, so we didn't pay per head.  I knew the kids wouldn't eat too much so I really didn't account for them in the catering prices.  :)

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 11:50 am
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The only kids coming are my nephews and niece (FI doesn't have any) and one of our groomsmen is bringing his entire family (3 kids), but we didn't say no because they're coming from the UK just to be with us on the big day.


One of my bridesmaids has kids, but was totally okay with not bringing her 3 little ones - she sees it as a night off.  :)

Posted on February 19, 2011 at 11:55 am
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chloenkitty I agree with you, a wedding isn't the right place for children to attend. I have nephews and neices who I am very close with but my brothers don't even want to bring them because they want to enjoy their night and drink a little.. let loose.


Thanks for all the input. I have gotten some backlash by family members who don't want to come because the kids aren't invited. I put the statement on my wedding website I sent out with our STD's 


" We request an adults only event"


 

Posted on February 20, 2011 at 12:12 pm
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IM PAYING X PLATE!!!!!!!A KIDS  DONt DRINK, DONT EAT LIKE AN ADULT!!!!! WASTE OF MONEY!!!!!!!!IT TIME FOR ADULT ENJOY THEMSELF WITHOUT KIDS!!!!!! I HAVE ALOT OF KISD IN MY FAMILY... I TOLD THEM... NOT KIDS......... THE INVITACION SAY..  SEAT ARE RESERVED ONLY FOR ADULT  NAMES IN THE INVITACIONS.......

Posted on February 20, 2011 at 2:14 pm
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THAT  WAS A DAYCARE??????

Posted on February 20, 2011 at 2:15 pm
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