Kind of ticked at FBIL! Suggestions?
so i feel really bad for my FI at the moment... his brother is well off (a dr) and his FIL's are paying for his wedding (i imagine in full... also dr's.) So the other night he texted my FI to tell him hes decided between two out of state places for his bachleors party. Poor FI is worried sick over this (granted he is a worry wort but this time its a legitamate worry) a.) He hates planes, B.) hes not much of a partier anymore and can no longer even drink due to medication he is on and his brother is a HUGE drinker... like there isnt a single pic on his fb that does not have booze in it... and the biggiest reason of all is C.) he cant really afford, hotel, plane ticket, and whatever hes supoused to chip in. He is the best man so its complicated.... FMIL has already fussed at him about not wanting to go, and im afraid it wont get any better.
I fear this will bring a lot of heartache and headache and sore feelings... FBIL's wedding is two months after ours... we arnt going on a honeymoon right away due to time off and of course funds. (just a minimoon) so i feel as if FBIL is being very unfair to his brother, since he knows full well my FI does not make a lot of money and is always struggling to make ends meet. :( i also feel bad because this is a problem between him and his family, and i know he will wimp out and probably some how end up going even if it means sacraficing something else to go just to mainly shut up FMIL... and i fear he will get stuck in a unsavory situation (i dont think hed ever cheat on me so its not that at all) and i wont be able to do anything being two or more states away! so the thought makes me seriously anxious. we thought FBIL had agreed to keep the bachelors in the same state... but changed his mind again. So im ticked off, but have backed away and am letting FI handle it, unless he asks... cause what else can i do???
What would you do?
(On a slightly related note, i am also worried about FI's bachelors party. My FI is a geek/nerdy and enjoys video games, card games and table top gaming... FI's bro is more like the jock, enjoys partying and boozing it up. FI cant drink, but is extremely social... i know a great idea for FI's bachelors party, but FI doesnt have a lot of guy friends anymore... and fewer still that are attending/invited to the wedding. mainly for budget purposes. I polled a mutual friend of ours who i knew wouldnt get offended about whether i could ask a few of FI's gaming friends to help throw a party but if they would be offended not being invited to the wedding. i know its bad ettiquete but thought guys are generally less drama filled that they would be cool with it because theyd be getting a fun party out of the deal. Said friend thought it was a cool idea, but had no clear answer and ended it with i shouldnt be the one planning FI's bachlors party anyways.... which i agree, but im afraid that FBIL will plan a typical bachelors that FI wont be able to enjoy. you know the typical strip clubs and bars. While i know i wont have a spectacular bachlerette party i know that my girls will at least take the time to all get together and make it an awesome time together and it will be loads of fun.... so i feel guilty (even before its happened) that my poor FI will get the short end of the stick. I kind of feel like he keeps getting the short end of the stick with most of the wedding... even though ive included him in EVERYTHING and he has happily, as far as i know, been involved....)
So ladies am i worrying myself into a grave for nothing?? what to do?