Kinda bummed :(

So I was talking to dh tonight about a guy he works with who's daughter was a complete accident. Don't get me wrong he loves his kid but he's said before that him and his wife didn't ever want a kid when she got pregnant. Dh then went on to say that he doesn't want to plan to have a baby he just wants it to be an accident and I had to explain to him that unfortunately the chances of that happening are pretty slim. I then asked him when he wanted to start trying and he got really vague with me which is not unusual for him but this time I got the feeling that he didn't want to PLAN or try for a baby for a while. He then reiterated that he'd much rather just have it happen on accident. I just feel so bad because I know the chances of us getting pregnant on accident are slim to none and I really want to start trying in the next 6 months or so and I know that we'll most likely need some sort of medical intervention although I'm not sure to what extent. I just feel really bad that I can't be one of those girls that just goes of bc then gets pregnant on accident I hate that we actually do have to have a plan and try to get pregnant. It just sucks because I know dh will be an amazing father but he's not the kind of guy that's going to jump on the planning to have a baby bandwagon because frankly he's a procrastinator and prefers to do things more spontaneous but we just can't do that :( heck I would rather have it be a glorious accident then something planned as well.

I told him we could just stop even trying to be careful and not use protection at all and see what happens and he wasn't all too keen on that idea because even though it's a slim chance I could accidently get pregnant and right now we're not quite ready for that since we've just moved to a new city. I just feel like there's not going to be any sort of surprise when we do get pregnant because we will need some sort of help and we will be actively trying and it really bums me out. I know that no matter what we'll be thrilled but I just wish we didn't have to go through so much for this.

Posted on March 26, 2011 at 3:37 pm


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Dh and I age going through the same thing right now. I'm sorry I know how bad the situation sucks! We have been on Clomid for the past few months and are thinking about taking a break from it. We would love for it to be a surprise when it happens but that doesn't seem like it's in the plan for us either. Sorry:(
Posted on March 27, 2011 at 4:32 am

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