Last name change????

I need help....to change my last name or not too???? I've been married 25 days! And I love my husband but I don't no how I feel about changing my last name!!!! Opinion???

Currently dunia Malouf or could be dunia Poswal!!!!
Posted on July 25, 2013 at 5:29 am
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It took me ages to change my name... 2 years in fact!  Because I felt like I was changing my identity and also couldn't be bothered to go through all the paperwork... they make it pretty difficult and tedious here.  But I do love my DH and my new surname :-)  I'd say you still have plenty time to think about it... and if you like both names, you can always make it double barrell.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 8:06 am
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What about using both and hyphenating it. I will be changing my last name. I know it's not for everyone but for me it's part of being his wife.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 8:10 am
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Im in the process of changing mine. Frankly, Im not finding it funny. A lot needs to be done,and the beaurocracy involved is serious, and honestly, I felt like I was loosing a part of me. Anyways, Im working on it right now, and its getting easier by the day. But I must say that if I had a shorter surname, I would have hyphenated mine.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 8:16 am
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Kim has a good point right there. Make it Dunia Malouf-Poswal. I changed my last name as soon as I got back from our honeymoon.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 9:35 am
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I was like Julie, I changed mine as soon as I got back from HM. But, I won't say I had my periods of sadness. Right after we got engaged I mentioned maybe hyphenating, or keeping my last name and DH was not happy about the idea. It gave me plenty of time to get used to the idea of having his name. After changing it, it was SO tough to get used to, but now I love sharing a name with him!

Posted on July 26, 2013 at 1:43 am
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I had the same problem, I LOVE my last name, it's very much a part of me and my family identity. Plus, there are only like 6 of us with this name in the country! DH wasn't thrilled at first that I wasn't taking his name flat out, but he got used to the fact that I hyphenated...plus this had the added benefit of me not becoming 'Sam Hamm'...the Dr. Seuss jokes were already starting!


People still call me by just his last name and that's fine, but legally I hyphenated and I'm very glad I did! Give yourself some time to think about it, try it out each way and see what you think, but don't rush into it because once you start the process it is a hassle.

Posted on July 26, 2013 at 2:42 am
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The ladies have given you great advice!  Take some time and think about it, you don't have to make a decision right away. 


I felt very different in that I didn't mind taking my husband's last name and I feel that I made the best decision for me. 

Posted on July 26, 2013 at 3:04 am
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It must be a hard decision. I live in Quebec Canada. It is the ONLY province in Canada that doesn’t allow you to legally change your name. In order to do it you need to spend an absolute fortune and get your birth certificate legally changed. All my family in Scotland think I’m a feminist for not changing my name because they don’t understand that its LAW not a choice lol


My Mum and Dad have been married for 36 years and when we moved to Quebec all of her legal documents reverted to her birth name. A name she had had for less time than she was married lol


 


Maybe because we can’t do it, the “want” is higher. It’s definitely easier having your name changed when it comes to children etc… I opted to hyphenate my kids names so that my surname was there as well, which is easier. I have friends that have to bring legal birth certificates everywhere with them to prove that they are in fact the mother of there children since they don’t share the same name.  


 


At the end of the day the decision is 100% up to you and your DH. If you are not comfortable changing your name for whatever reason, then give it time.


Good luck with your decision.  

Posted on July 26, 2013 at 3:59 am
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Thank you ladies!
Posted on July 26, 2013 at 4:46 am

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