Letting Things GO!
One thing that used to make me NUTS as a kid was having to worry about little things. My mom (God love her) would flip over the smallest thing. . .I mean, it's not like we lived in a well-kept home (oh believe me! My parents house is a MESS). . .but gosh if one little thing was lost, forgotten, or broken she would be on edge about it.
That said, how many times do we have to stop OURSELVES from making something bigger than it is? How often do we take something out on our SO's when really, it would be a lot less stress to let it be?
A lot of times, it's SO MUCH EASIER to let something go than to spend time being annoyed or picking a fight about it.
1) Let's say your DH doesn't hang his towels up. ANNOYING right? Sure, but, what's a better solution: nagging (AGAIN), picking a fight, fuming about it, and being annoyed. . .OR, accepting that it's a habit he has, realizing it may not change, and picking the darn thing up and hanging it yourself?
2) Or, let's say you ask your DH to take out the trash. He's annoyed having to do it (did you interrupt his football game or something? LOL!) and the bag drips smelly trash juice on the floor. He doesn't notice. How do you handle that?
Is it worth going after him and calling him a nitwit for making a mess (when he did what you asked), or, should you go give him a teasing punch, jokingly tell him he's a trash juice spreader, and grab a paper towel yourself?
My *guess* here is that if you are sweet, tease him about it. . .he'll give you a big smile and clean up the trash juice himself. If you respond by getting annoyed with his 'incompetence' you have not only created tension but he's going to begrudgingly go clean it up. . .and next time you want him to take out the trash well, have fun with that. . . .
A LOT of making a relationship work is about how you approach situations like this.
What is a time where you could, or should, have handled something better?
Thinking about this, what are some things that you realize you do that may be creating unnecessary tension (come on gals, be honest. . .we're all guilty of this at some point), and how could you resolve the issue with a different approach?