life without deployments

The other day I was talking to a friend who was just married. She was telling me all about their plans for life- where they will be in a year, fixing up their house, when they want kids, etc. A lot of things she said just seemed so off to me- so unrealistic- like, how can she plan that? And then I realized what was so different, she doesn't live her life between deployments. She doesn't live in the dreadful countdown until 'next time.' She wakes up every day, sure that he will be there today, tomorrow, and every day in the future.


I love FI. I love that he is in the military. I love what he does for me, for himself, for our country. But seriously, how nice would it be to live a life without deployments?


This mini-vent has been weighing on me for a few days, and I knew that you ladies would understand! Thanks for 'listening' to me!

Posted on December 8, 2009 at 6:12 am
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Wouldnt that be nice?  Knowing that there wasn't a pending deployment every 18 mos (AF)? Dreading the lonely nights.  Wanting to make plans but scared of if he will or will not be there?  I give it to you for being such a strong support system for him b/c I know it cannot be easy!

Posted on December 8, 2009 at 10:25 am
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Ah. You hit the nail on the head. I've been thinking about that more often in the past couple months. Don't get me wrong, I consider myself extremely lucky, but at the same time, I wonder if non-military couples realize just how lucky they are. My FI will be deployed about a month and a half afer we're married, and it sucks that we can't plan anything for those four months.

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 1:03 am
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I agree and have been feeling the same way.  Although I knew exactly what I was getting into, as the days come closer to deployment the harder it gets for me.  But, we can plan all those things...our plans just have to be in our "home for the moment" and wherever in the world the military might take us.  I like to think it'll keep life from being mundane, boring, and expected.  I also like to think that deployment can only help to make us stronger. It's nice to know that we have a support system...but how do we keep this support system up after we're all married?  :)

Posted on December 9, 2009 at 11:33 am
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Oh yes.  My FI gets moved every 2 years (if he's on a ship) or 4 years (if he's in a land office)- I'm kind of jealous of people who don't have to juggle their own careers with constant moving bc of their SO.    


Actually we were discussing furniture the other day- he has mostly Ikea & other inexpensive stuff because even when the movers are really careful, it gets kind of banged up getting shipped around so much.  We were deciding that instead of getting nice dressers & stuff, we'd stick with the cheaper stuff a few more years just because it's going to be moved at least 8 more times before he retires. ;-)  Aaah, the things civilian wives don't even have to consider!!

Posted on December 13, 2009 at 12:49 am
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wck- we were just talking about furniture the other day! We said the same thing- buy inexpensive stuff or keep the hand-me-downs so that when it is destroyed, we won't be out tons of money. It stinks though. I didn't work my butt off in school to have old/inexpensive stuff. I want nice stuff :(  I would love it if we never had to move again.

Posted on December 13, 2009 at 2:34 am
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If you goods are damaged in the process of moving you can put in a claim and they will reimburse you a certain value.  SO keep receipts if you can.  They broke a mirror to a coffee table I own.  It was probably about 300 bucks and they sent me around 160 to replace the glass that they broke during shipment.

Posted on December 17, 2009 at 12:19 pm

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