Little Problem compromises

I was just wondering what little "a ha's" you have discovered that have solved the little things that cause frustrations in marriage.  Sometimes we have insight that will solve those issues.


For example:


Problem: I like to read in bed and DH cannot go to sleep with the light on. 


Solution: I wear a camping headlight at night to read - the small amount of light is enough for me and doesn't disturb him.  Looks silly, but it's just my DH anyway!!


 


My friend discovered the following:


Problem: Her DH left the toilet seat up all the time.


Solution: They both put the seat and the lid down so that both do the same amount of "work" to get to the optimum position.


 


Anyone else found a nugget of wisdom?

Posted on July 20, 2010 at 9:49 am
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My DH leaves his dirty socks all over the house.


Solution: I pick them up and put them in his pillow case so he has to sleep on them and smell them all night.


Okay - that didn't fix the problem, but it is fun to do. :)

Posted on July 21, 2010 at 5:03 am
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HAHAHA that was funny BlissfulKate...hysterical.

Posted on July 21, 2010 at 5:24 am
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LMAO @ BlissfulKate!  I *LOVE* that idea!  haha

Posted on July 21, 2010 at 5:32 am
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BlissfulKate!!! you are so smart!! I should try that one!

Posted on July 21, 2010 at 2:46 pm
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We didn't really have our own place before we got married. We were staying at my parents.


Well when we got our own place it was so hard to compromise on decor. We still disagree alot. Its going to be tough when we decide to buy a house.


 

Posted on July 22, 2010 at 1:16 am
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I had the same issue as kristinamarie....our biggest compromises have been on decor.  In buying furniture for our house we did disagree a lot.  He was much more concerned with quality (like buying solid wood only which can be really expensive!) and I was much more interested in style/design of the pieces.  He felt buying things that were solid wood and high quality would last us forever.  My feeling was, I don't want these things forever....I will want to change it up in 10-15 years!  And I don't care how high quality it is...if its ugly I don't want it!  It was VERY HARD to find stuff that satisfied both our needs for quality and style.  And it cost twice as much.  But, what can you do! 

Posted on July 23, 2010 at 4:08 am
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Well... this one caused a lot of friction especially before the wedding and I was crazy-busy doing all the details and needed his help!


Problem:  he spends hours and hours and hours playing an online computer game called Evony when he gets home from work until bedtime.  It's a strategy game & I don't see a point in it.  He's on his desk (in the living room) and I'm on the couch either reading or watching TV.  We don't really get "close" (if you know what I mean ;-)) if he's at his desk & he's not beside me!


Solution: I've talked to him about it.   I give him his "decompression time" when he gets home where I just do my own thing (after greeting him & giving him kisses & hugs).  Now he just comes over to the couch and watches some TV with me and I get my cuddle time with him!  I think not really bugging him and letting him do his thing was the secret!

Posted on July 23, 2010 at 9:31 am
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I love reading these! =) I don't have an example right now, but hopefully I can give some input soon!

Posted on August 5, 2010 at 10:29 am
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lmao Kate!!!!! I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!

Posted on August 13, 2010 at 12:56 pm
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To say in advance, this might sound a little OCD.  DH opens the shower curtain the opposite way than I do, so that it has to go over the little hump on the bar when I put it back the other way and has ripped several shower curtains in the process which really used to tick me off(I do have to get up very early also), so now DH has a post-it above the shower instructing himself on how to open the shower curtain.  We also had a problem forever with him wanting the tv on all night and I need complete quiet and darkness since I have major insomnia as it is.  DH now listens to audio books on his Ipod at night with earphones.  Wow I don't compromise much, lol.

Posted on September 30, 2010 at 5:10 pm
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Problem:  Cleaning our place can create major resentment in both parties when one feels that the other is not cleaning up their own mess, or not doing standard up-keep cleaning to make the place look presentable (like serious amounts of dog hair needs to be vacuumed a lot!!!)


Solution: We had to revert to a "your chore, my chore" system... DH gets vacuuming (I dread this), and I get cleaning the litter box (he dreads that); DH gets bedding/towel/dog bed laundry, I get dusting & cleaning the bathroom; DH and I split the kitchen (if one cooks the other cleans, or who ever made the mess knows they have to clean it or it gets put on their night dresser)... no, just kidding about the last part : )

Posted on October 1, 2010 at 10:18 am
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I'm the same way haha


Posted on October 1, 2010 at 11:53 am
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BEAN, I think that's a good idea - I may have to talk to FI about that one since I try to clean up when I get home and he waits until later, so it feels like one isn't doing ANY of the cleaning, when in fact we are.  :/


Thanks!

Posted on October 3, 2010 at 2:36 am
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My hubby and I realized during "pre" marital counseling (we were already legally married, but preparing for our family/religious ceremony in October of this year) that we are very different in some aspects that we hadn't thought of.  I love being around people, DH doesn't.  I mean he often has fun, but for him it's much more draining, while for me it's actually energizing!  I realized that I love to drag him everywhere I go, and he'll go because he loves me and loves seeing me happy.  So I'm working on being a bit more independent and going to some things by myself so that he has some him time.  


HAH!  I guess that's not much of a compromise... lol oh well.  I'll post it anyway!

Posted on October 21, 2010 at 2:51 am
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Great tips ladies!  I'm still trying to figure my guy out.  If I have any a-ha's i will def post!

Posted on October 21, 2010 at 5:41 pm

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